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Why you can't trust secrets even to close friends
Friendship is a wonderful thing. But sometimes people’s paths diverge, and the old relationship of trust ends. The reasons can be very different, but it is no longer so important. And regret does not make much sense, because life goes on, and everything happens.
Today's edition. "Site" She will share the story of a subscriber who has known her friend almost all her life. Their relationship has been good over the years. But then something went wrong, and girlfriend It got heavy. The friendship seems to be over and it can no longer be fixed.
My friend and I have been friends all our lives. We lived in the same yard, grew up and played together, went to the same school. She's a little older, but that's never been a problem. We both got married and even gave birth to our first children at almost the same time. We were very happy that our children would be friends too, Maria wrote.
“However, our lives have evolved differently. My husband and I worked a lot, I even managed to earn part-time. He's got a promotion, he's getting good, I'm also trying to keep up. Now we are confidently standing on our feet, but our friend is not happy with our success.”
“The fact is that Luda’s finances have always been tight. Her husband was never particularly zealous, and recently he was completely lazy. As a result, the friend herself had to bear almost all the family expenses. It is clear that she could not cope alone. I didn't know how to help her.
The beginning of the discord began to shatter our relationship with Lyuda when we bought our son the first smartphone. Naturally, the child first of all boasted to his closest friends, among whom was the son of my old friend. He also wanted this toy and asked his parents. They did not have the money to do that.”
“In the end, a friend called, explained the situation, and asked my child to brag less to her son about his smartphone, as their family can not afford such a purchase now.”
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“I did not immediately like this approach. They're kids, especially boys. What else can they talk about but smartphones and other gadgets? Sharing a new toy with friends is normal. If there is no money, the head of the family has been a month. joblessIs that my problem? Let him get off the couch and provide for his family as he should!
“Of course, I did not speak my conclusions to my friend. I talked to my son. She explained that bragging again is wrong. But the claims of a friend were not expected to end after our unpleasant phone conversation.
At first, she was upset that we would buy the baby branded sneakers that her son immediately wanted. Then she didn’t like that we gave the child to expensive English courses. Then the problem for her was that we went to the sea with the whole family.
“This relationship has already brought more negativity than good. For some reason, Ludka was sure that if she could not afford something for herself or her child, then my husband and I should be more modest, not annoy her with our purchases and spending.
Why keep in touch? “I communicated with Lyuda less and less, because I did not want to spoil my mood over and over again. And then I decided to stop talking to my friend. And the child tried to involve more in other companies. Let him communicate with those to whom he does not have to feel guilty for the way he lives and what he is bought.”
“This distance did not become invisible to Lyudka either. She had already complained to a mutual acquaintance that I “was arrogant and stopped communicating with her because she was poor.” Maybe I am, and someone will think I am a bad friend. But why maintain a friendship that does not bring joy?
Today's edition. "Site" She will share the story of a subscriber who has known her friend almost all her life. Their relationship has been good over the years. But then something went wrong, and girlfriend It got heavy. The friendship seems to be over and it can no longer be fixed.
My friend and I have been friends all our lives. We lived in the same yard, grew up and played together, went to the same school. She's a little older, but that's never been a problem. We both got married and even gave birth to our first children at almost the same time. We were very happy that our children would be friends too, Maria wrote.
“However, our lives have evolved differently. My husband and I worked a lot, I even managed to earn part-time. He's got a promotion, he's getting good, I'm also trying to keep up. Now we are confidently standing on our feet, but our friend is not happy with our success.”
“The fact is that Luda’s finances have always been tight. Her husband was never particularly zealous, and recently he was completely lazy. As a result, the friend herself had to bear almost all the family expenses. It is clear that she could not cope alone. I didn't know how to help her.
The beginning of the discord began to shatter our relationship with Lyuda when we bought our son the first smartphone. Naturally, the child first of all boasted to his closest friends, among whom was the son of my old friend. He also wanted this toy and asked his parents. They did not have the money to do that.”
“In the end, a friend called, explained the situation, and asked my child to brag less to her son about his smartphone, as their family can not afford such a purchase now.”
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“I did not immediately like this approach. They're kids, especially boys. What else can they talk about but smartphones and other gadgets? Sharing a new toy with friends is normal. If there is no money, the head of the family has been a month. joblessIs that my problem? Let him get off the couch and provide for his family as he should!
“Of course, I did not speak my conclusions to my friend. I talked to my son. She explained that bragging again is wrong. But the claims of a friend were not expected to end after our unpleasant phone conversation.
At first, she was upset that we would buy the baby branded sneakers that her son immediately wanted. Then she didn’t like that we gave the child to expensive English courses. Then the problem for her was that we went to the sea with the whole family.
“This relationship has already brought more negativity than good. For some reason, Ludka was sure that if she could not afford something for herself or her child, then my husband and I should be more modest, not annoy her with our purchases and spending.
Why keep in touch? “I communicated with Lyuda less and less, because I did not want to spoil my mood over and over again. And then I decided to stop talking to my friend. And the child tried to involve more in other companies. Let him communicate with those to whom he does not have to feel guilty for the way he lives and what he is bought.”
“This distance did not become invisible to Lyudka either. She had already complained to a mutual acquaintance that I “was arrogant and stopped communicating with her because she was poor.” Maybe I am, and someone will think I am a bad friend. But why maintain a friendship that does not bring joy?
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