Should a daughter care for a mother who gave her an unhappy childhood?

Every child has childhood. It is just as unconditional as parental love, which many unfortunately forget. They say parents don’t choose, and that’s true. However, not all children are lucky enough to be born into a family where they are truly loved.



The heroine of our current history Tatiana was in a difficult situation. She grew up a long time ago and left her home, where she was not needed. Her life improved, but a sudden call from her aunt and the news about her mother turned everything upside down. What happened and what decision came to the woman, read further in the article.

My childhood can hardly be called happy. When I was 5 years old, my mother literally hated me. She thought Dad left us because of me. I just didn’t understand what happened or why. I grew up in total dislike and there was absolutely nothing I could do about it. As I grew older, I began to notice that other families lived differently. I felt like an outcast because no one wanted to be friends with me, so restless.



The relationship with the mother did not improve, but only got worse. She would often yell at me, write a list of demands I had to meet. She didn't care about my studies. At least I didn’t hurt, that’s what I feared the most.

At the age of 12, I had the biggest dream of my life. Go to college and leave my mother forever. I studied hard to get my way. I was praised in school, but I didn’t know how to take praise because I had never felt that way before.



My mother didn't even come to my graduation. She used to make up an excuse, but this time she didn’t say anything. When I went to study in the capital, she just grinned, saying that I will not last long there and will be back soon. But her lack of faith in me only increased my motivation.

At university, I met my future husband. After school, we signed up and started living together. I've finally learned what a calm, measured life is. Most importantly, I know what true love is.

Another life like this has been 15 years. I never called my mother and she never called me. I lived as if she didn’t exist at all. But at some point, I started having anxiety attacks again. My aunt, my mother’s sister, called and said that she was very ill. She is seriously ill and cannot take care of herself alone. I have to come and try to get her on her feet.



At first I rejected any thought of it. Why should I help her? She was harassing me, forgetting that I had the right to a normal childhood. But then my conscience woke up inside me. I couldn't think of anything else but her. My husband said he would support any decision I made. And I went to my mother's.

She's gotten very old over the years. She looked terribly exhausted and miserable. I stayed with her for about two weeks, for which we seemed to be friends. I don't know how it works, but we just didn't remember the past, we tried to capture the moment here and now. I told her about my husband, she told me about her house. We talked all day long, we cried and laughed.



I've never been close to my mom. I just realized how much I needed this connection. I know I can never forgive her, no matter how much I want to. She may have regretted what she did to me a long time ago. But what does it matter now?

From the editorial office, you can live your whole life without establishing a relationship with your parents. However, even the most unfortunate and bitter experience provides an invaluable opportunity to draw the right conclusions and not to repeat a similar scenario in your family. I want to believe that Tatiana will be able to let go of the grievances of the past and forgive her mother.



What would you do in the place of the main character, would go to help a weak mother? Boldly share your opinion in the comments!