A friend is afraid to say something wrong with her husband, so I ask her to think about divorce.

"The basis of love “Everyone has their own,” many people probably think and, from the point of view of psychology, are mistaken. In fact, there are many more factors. What can be said for sure is that in order to maintain a normal relationship, a couple must be completely mutual when it comes to caring for a loved one.



In fact, according to the same psychologists, such a strong and exciting feeling as love is based on 7 points at once. And if you keep the balance between them, then the relationship will never cool down, and the people who are in them will remain happy for a very long time.

So, in order not to pull the bagpipes, we will immediately tell you that the basics of love are respect, trust, communication, honesty, support, individuality and equality. But a relationship at the initial stage can get head-scratching, and someone in the couple may decide that all this is already in their relationship.



In addition, do not forget that there are openly toxic relationships built on the negative. For example, banal pity can play a huge role. When one partner cannot leave because he is afraid for the fate of the other. “You don’t have to die for another person, you just have to live to have fun together.” – Jorge Bucay

But let's get back to our main question. Let’s talk about the factors that hold the true love of two people.

Respect The ability to see a person and accept him as he is. This is a very important point, as you will need to immediately decide whether his behavior can develop along with yours.

Trust

Basically, that's what it says. It is an opportunity and a desire to trust your partner. Do not suspect him of anything negative and be with him just with a calm soul.

This is the ability of two people every day to solve not only important aspects of life together, but even various trifles that some simply do not pay attention to. However, their point of view may not always be the same. Communication is the ability to reach agreement with the utmost respect for each other.

Honesty

It matters whether you are introspecting or not. You must understand exactly what you have desires, plans for the future, views on life. And you need to share all this with your soulmate, just as she should share her inner thoughts with you. It strengthens the relationship very well, because you get even closer.

Without normal support in the relationship will not go far. It doesn’t matter what we talk about, moral or financial. But at the same time, you can not put too much pressure on your partner, allowing him to develop both professionally and as a person.

Individuality

If you have a strong personality in a relationship, that’s great. However, you do not have to try to adjust to it in any way. It is important for partners to maintain individual traits, because they attracted them at the beginning of the relationship. Also, you can not put pressure on a loved one, imposing your tastes and preferences on him.

We need to balance what partners give to each other and what they receive. We speak of reciprocity as the basis for just and generous love. It is important to build a relationship brick by brick and be on this “building” in an equal position.

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Don’t be afraid to take on some responsibilities in a relationship. A truly dear and close person will understand everything from half a word. He will also try to make your life better and happier. Over time, everything else will come: emotions, joy, serious attitude to what is happening. That, in fact, will be love.