My daughter won't talk to me because she cleaned the apartment when they were on vacation. Bashny.Net

Communication with parents of mature age does not always go well. Moreover, sometimes adult children take all parental morals and advice too close to heart. And sometimes there's just one. quarrel It could ruin all communication.



The heroine of today’s history turned out to be the mother whose behavior caused a storm of indignation from her daughter. Who will be right in this situation and can it be resolved peacefully? Read about it further in the article.

My mom and I had a big fight recently. Lena and her husband and children went on vacation to Turkey and asked me to look after their apartment. You know, water the vases and stuff. I may have overstepped my authority, so to speak.

This is their first major holiday in 7 years, probably. They always save on everything to quickly pay off the loan for the apartment. The son-in-law is constantly working, grasping for all opportunities, Lena also recently left the decree and plows like a crow horse. We finally decided to give money and have a good rest.



So I thought I'd surprise them. It's just that when I came to them for the first time, I saw that it was impossible to be at home. The furniture is in the dust, in the cabinets everything is piled up, the curtains in the kitchen have not been washed since they were settled as if. So I decided to stay with them and take matters into my own hands.

Cleaned up 3 days, by God. Washing, ironing, washing floors, even the refrigerator cleaned up and washed the windows! All the junk was thrown away, but why does it only take place on the shelves? I thought Lenka would come with his son-in-law and be happy.



And it turned out exactly the opposite. “I asked you just to water the vases! Why do you think you can afford to run here? I can't find half of my stuff, Mommy! she said, and smoke was coming out of her ears.

And then she said that I violated her personal boundaries and broke into her private life with her husband. She surrendered to me! Let my grandchildren live in cleanliness and order, not in the trash that this apartment was before I came. I thought they'd thank me. I'm also guilty, is that normal?



What a big problem! She cleaned her apartment and became an enemy of the family. No, I'm serious. Lena won't even pick up the phone when I call. I'm afraid to imagine what my grandchildren are thinking about me, they're probably listening to their mother! Tell me, did I do such a bad thing to my daughter? I really wanted the best...

The editorial board says that initiative punishable. And this story is a prime example of that. Maybe the woman really wanted to help. But nobody asked her to do that, right? I know for myself how such situations can sometimes get out of balance. But not everyone manages to cope with themselves. So it turns out, as a result, a seemingly trivial quarrel with my mother, which develops into a real serious conflict.



In this situation, a lot depends on the daughter. Judging by her reaction, we can conclude that resentment against her mother has been accumulating in her for a long time. We need to let her go and talk seriously to Mom. set personal boundaries Tell your mother what she should never do. In words, it seems simple, but in reality – hardly. We hope that Katya will be able to find the strength to establish a relationship with her mother.



Have you experienced such problems in your life? We would be very happy if you could share your personal story with us. We'll see you in the comments!