Throwing grandmother that just retired and misses without fussing with grandchildren

What can a woman feel when her own son declares that she bad-grandmother? Pain, resentment and resentment... The whole life begins to roll in my head. But finding out what she's been doing wrong all the time doesn't work.



The problem may not be in women, but in thankless? The heroine of today’s history has never been able to answer that question. We hope that you will help her to understand everything so that she does not fall into despair!

I was never in a hurry to retire because I loved working. And when that moment came, I quickly got bored at home. And, to be honest, very lonely, because my husband died a few years ago, and the children have long lived in their families.

There was so much energy in me that I could use. So I decided to visit more often my son and daughter-in-law, who lived near me. I also wanted to spend more time with my 2-year-old grandson. While the young worked (Anyuta did not want to go on maternity leave), a nanny sat with the baby.



At some point, I realized that I could help my family and replace a nanny. This is ideal for me and for them, as they will be able to save money and not pay for the services of another person. I was confident because I raised two beautiful children. And now it is much easier: all the necessary things are at hand.

It was in my time that I had to save everything and count every penny. But they lived somehow! The main thing is to surround the child with care and warmth. I am ready to give my grandson everything. Having firmly decided, I went to my son and daughter-in-law to talk about my idea.



But their reaction shocked me. At first, they silently looked at each other, and then just left the room and talked about something animatedly for 5 minutes. When they returned, they said that they were completely satisfied with the work of a nanny, because she is a qualified specialist. They say that she not only sits with the child, but also uses a special technique.

My son’s unexpected response was very upset, and I asked my son to take me home. Along the way, I asked what was really wrong, because my idea was not so bad. He said something I never expected him to say.



“Sorry, I don’t think you’re a good mom. So we can’t trust you with our child and let him spend so much time with him, he said. Is this some kind of joke? Does he really think I'm a bad grandmother and mother? I worked a lot when my son was young. But my father and I had no other choice!



We gave the children a great education, put them on their feet. After all these years, do I really deserve to hear this? I think my daughter-in-law is turning her son against me. Maybe she's just tired of me coming to their house all the time. But besides them, I have no one else. My daughter got married and went abroad.

I just feel terrible. I have insomnia at night because I think about what I did wrong. My son had never said anything like that to me before. We have always had a great relationship... Is this all over? ?

Nothing hurts a mother so much as the words and actions of her own children. After all, when they become adults, all forgotten childhood grievances float out. However, this does not mean that you can speak so harshly about your family. This can permanently disrupt human contact.



We are sure that you will be able to give the main character of the story good advice and support her in such a difficult situation. You may have experienced something like this, and you will share your experience with us. We'll see you in the comments!