Where are the children: 7 books that will help parents in the difficult conversation
Moms and dads are often afraid of conversations on sensitive subjects. Few understand that children at any age have the right to know the truth about how they came to light, and it's better if the truth they tell the parents.
7 books that will help parents in the difficult conversation
1. "I was born", Mrs. Janusz, Mervi Lindman
Age: 4-6 years.
Kateryna Janusz is a Swedish writer and journalist, who for more than twenty years specializiruetsya on the issues of sexual education and family relations. She is raising five children, whose questions at the time often put her in a deadlock. It is for them primarily meant the book "How I was born".
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According to the text, the sons and daughter of the writer was concerned about not only physiological but philosophical character: not without reason the story of conception and pregnancy is preceded by a lengthy discourse on who the person could be before he came into this world, a brave knight or a skydiver.
Kateryna Janusz raises and important issue of parental responsibility: although the father was not carrying the baby, he has no fewer new commitments than the mother. The writer does not avoid the topic of foster children and artificial insemination. Illustrations of Finnish artist Mervi Lindman sometimes seem ludicrous and naive, but certainly will not confuse anyone with unnecessary frankness.
2. "Where are the children?", Doris Rubel
Age: 4-7 years.
German novelist Doris Rubel managed to strike a balance between delicacy and frankness. The book "Where do babies come from?"designed primarily for parents who wait for addition in your family and want to explain to the older child how it happened that soon he will have a brother or sister.
The book is a play on the situation, provoking the emergence of "awkward" questions: boy accidentally finds his parents for having sex or looking at a photo album and cannot believe that once sat in mom's belly.
The solid part of the material on pregnancy and the first months of a baby's life: what does an ultrasound machine, than the child is in the womb and what to do immediately after birth. In this little reader gets a few lessons of etiquette — for example, learns that the parent bedroom is not to enter without knocking, especially if the door to it closed. The illustration is equipped with dozens of moving parts: opening a special window, you can see what part of the abdominal cavity is a fetus on the first weeks of pregnancy, or to know what is the inner structure of men and women.
3. "Where did I come from?"Peter Mail
Age: 7-10 years.
"Where Did I Come From?"("Where did I come from?") is the first book by British writer Peter Mail, which was published in 1973 and since then several editions. In England "Where Did I Come From?"considered a classic of children's literature.
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From this book several generations of Englishmen learned about what man and woman do under a patchwork talalom. She became one of the best manifestations of British conservatism: the author was in the framework of decency, but refrained from moralizing.
Illustrator Arthur Robins portrayed typical parents unvarnished: father bald head and a beer belly, mom — problems with excess weight. To avoid complaints Peter Mail failed: the fighters for equality have accused him that the book was too "masculine", and women's role in sexual relations were clearly understated.
Russian readers will probably be surprised by the fact that, if it was told as a child about the stork and cabbage, many British kids believe that if they were found in a hospital or got in a bar together with a beer. And some even say they came in the house thanks to the cat that drags in the street all in a row.
4. "Book of love", Pernilla Stalfelt
Age: from 4 years.
Sweden is one of the few countries where sex education is organized not only in school but also in the number of preschool institutions. According to statistics, the Swedish children by 5-6 years have a fairly complete picture about sex and openly discuss sensitive issues with parents and teachers. Therefore, the book Pernille Stalfelt emphasis not only on physiology and feelings.
"Book of love" teaches the child that love is different: like an exciting adventure or a boring eternal or transitory, happy or unrequited. Express it in different ways: someone writes a note with a touching recognition, and someone's getting a tattoo. And though at times this feeling causes suffering, it tells mom and dad that it was time to get married and have a child.
Pernilla Stalfelt talking to kids in their language and use the concepts that they perceive is much easier than biological terms. The majority of parents perceived "the Book of love" is critical: the difference of mentalities. However, you can overcome it very easily: it is enough to refer to the drawings Pernille Stalfelt with humor.
5. "Where are the children? Sexual encyclopedia for children 8-11 years", Virginie Dumont, montagnat Serge
Age: 8-11 years.
For 8-11 years children, as a rule, know in General terms how they were born and what preceded it, and to treat only adults for explanations. From the parents ' reaction will depend largely on how the future will develop the sexual life of a teenager. The desire to get rid platitudes may lead to disastrous consequences.
A particularly embarrassing parents can give their child a book Virginie Dumont and Serge montaña "Where are the children?".
The authors speak about sexually transmitted diseases and methods of protection. A separate Chapter is devoted to the risks posed by adults: the book teaches your child how to recognize the exhibitionist or the pedophile and to avoid violence.
6. "Mommy Laid an Egg: or, Where Do Babies Come From?"Babette Cole
Age: 3-5 years.
"Mommy laid an egg or where do babies come from" is the most famous book writer Babette Cole, which account for more than seventy published works. Sexy encyclopedia for kids has sold a million copies and caused a flurry of enthusiasm and avalanche of indignation.
A particularly heated discussion revolved around the pages devoted to sexual positions. Thanks to them the book by Babette Cole called "a Kama Sutra for children." There were, however, those who liked the way the writer to convey to the child information about what sex is, in General, quite fun.
In the book "Mommy laid an egg" the role educators assume no parents, children who are tired, feed them tales about the stork. They are convinced that mom and dad have a pretty vague idea about procreation, and therefore it is necessary to reveal to them the truth. To talk about naturalism in relation to the illustrations Babette Cole hard. Conditional adults, which explains the differences between a man and a woman, drawn on the principle of "stick-stick-ogurechik" and book a family reminiscent of characters Patriotic cartoons about fellow Pilots than real people.
7. "The main miracle of light", Georgy Yudin
Age: 6-10 years.
Published in 1991 the book "the Main miracle of the world" writer and artist Georgy Yudin is still considered the best of all that has been written on the topic of sex education in the Russian language. "The main miracle of the world" is not an encyclopedia, but a real novel with a fascinating plot, built in the form of a dialogue between father and son. Man is the main character of this novel and part of the main wonder of the world.
In most similar books, the birth of a child becomes a kind of ending to which the parents went on for nine months. George Yudin, on the contrary, positioning the birth as beginning. It is no coincidence that a good half of the book is devoted to explaining the processes run by human activity, how his body works, how it breathes, eats, thinks, feels. Of the illustrations are reproductions of famous paintings. For example, in the Chapter where we are talking about how the parents met and fell in love with each other, placed the painting of Gustav Klimt "the Kiss".published