And to prevent screams and tantrums.
Cognitive ability is the same as trying to eat cereal with chopsticks. Just imagine: everything your child wants – toys, love, again toys is the cereal. And the inability of children to Express their desires – it is the sticks, and when the child can not, symbolically speaking, to grab with chopsticks elusive particle, it explodes from emotions and screaming, kicking, beating on the floor and so on.
Reduce this concern can be a simple trick that is called "emotional intelligence" by which you teach your child to decipher his feelings so that you understood them and helped.
Even if he should just open a packet of cereal.
Adults sometimes confuse the terms "emotion" and "feeling", but children don't understand them at all. At that time, as a research team of psychologists from new York University and non-governmental organization MDRC show that children with well-developed emotional literacy, less prone to anxiety and aggression
. They develop Pro-social behavior aimed at solving the problems of others, and it improves learning ability and mental health.
There are several ways to help your child to recognize feelings and manage them:
Do not underestimate
Not deny a child's feelings, otherwise he will think that to experience something – not good. Therefore, it is not the best idea to tell the child that he was not sad and not angry, even if you have the best intentions.
Make sure that the child knows how to identify a particular feeling, it will help him to navigate in this turbulent emotional sea. Along the way, it will help to explain to him what is going on and you will find a solution. The key factor here is keeping the conversation about emotions. When the kids are screaming because someone took their toy, help them name their feelings. You can say: "you Seem angry because that boy did something bad."
Talk about feelings
Even if you think talking about feelings is inappropriate, children will want to do this. Cry everyone, including adults and strong men and women. Your story about your feelings will allow the child to directly recognize them in another person. Better if the child will hear that you are sad and it does not lie on the floor and not kick. This will show him how to Express feelings.
Games with emotions
Children love to play and learning emotional literacy can be very easy during your regular games, just with a few small additions.
- Try to change your normal game with soft toys for role playing with different characters. Enable the script with bad characters that make you angry.
- Become a MIME. Show different emotions – anger, sadness, happiness and let your child guess their calls.
- Make a Remix of the song If You're Happy And You Know It, replacing "happiness" with other emotions and ways to Express them, not just clapping.
When your child wants to "explode", show him other ways to cope with emotions. Show that you can dance instead of kick. A deep breath is a great way to cope with the beginning of tears.
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Remember, if you are doing any of these exercises regularly, is a good way to find the emotional centre of your child, and that we confess, and your too.published