All of us in life have to interact with people whose behavior we don't like. Colleagues, teachers at school, where your children, neighbors and some not-so-agreeable relatives ruin your plans, ruin your life with endless whining disappear when you rely on them so... Relationship is more entangled, and the case is not progressing.
R. Brinkman in his book "the Genius of communication" identified ten major types of behavior that uses people to achieve their goals. Unbearable behavior is especially enhanced in adverse circumstances or when doing too difficult tasks. This article describes the UNBEARABLE people.
The tank is a conflict, directionally-aggressive, tough, feisty and fiery. Tank, holding a job, no longer able to use the brakes. It attacks you from all sides and could easily crush. And don't be surprised, it's nothing personal, you just caught him on the way. In attempts to control the business or to manage people behavior is changing from a light tank pressure to a blistering attack.
Sniper – makes you look stupid, rude remark, caustic remark or a carefully calculated eye-rolling. Sniper – a real strategist. When he is not glued, he is able to manipulate all indiscriminately. He does this by ruthlessly humiliating you and putting you in a deadlock. Anyone afraid of being foolish, and this achieves a sniper, okay, hounding me you viciously ironic remarks. Moreover, He chooses to do the most suitable point when you are most vulnerable.
"Friendly" Sniper. This person relates to others, and his mocking jokes are just a way to attract attention. Friendly sniper likes to shoot ironic jokes on someone else's ego. Moreover, if you joked in response, he will take it as a positive evaluation of their actions and will continue to attack you. And if you say nothing – will cause him emotional trauma because he will not get a response from you to their friendly jokes.
Know-it-all is rarely questioned and not tolerate when he is told that he is wrong. If it turns out that he made a mistake, confidently proves that to blame only you! Nerdy suppress any resistance to its verbosity and constant objections. Seeks out weaknesses and non-existent shortcomings of the opponents to force them to change their minds. And because this man really has some knowledge of the subject, many under his pressure easily.
The whiner – feels helpless and depressed unfair world. He dreams of perfection, but nobody and nothing fits his ideal. You from morning to night have to listen to his whining and complaints. If you offer him a way out of a difficult situation, he will immediately consider you a lousy conversationalist, but the number of complaints is reduced. A whiner does not believe that can do something to change. Pinned all sorts of trouble, he even did not want to think about taking any decision. All he can do is itch and complain: "all wrong, all wrong, it's unbearable." Whiner saves his grief and it feels more and more helpless and unable to decide anything.
Man — no — this is a man who is concentrating on the struggle for the frustration, hopelessness and despair. Man – no, unlike the Whiner feels helpless in a difficult situation. He just loses hope. He was sure that no error just never correct, no one can detect. He tells everyone around: "Forget it, nothing happens. We tried many times after that, and we did not. From this situation there is no exit." The hopelessness of such a person brings all to despair.
No man – not to talk or be quiet together. What else can you expect from Any man? Work and life it hard, it doesn't work as I would like. At the slightest failure, he is ready to hide in the bushes. At the mere hint of what to do best is impossible, he declares: "Great! Do it yourself! Don't just come to me and do not complain that you have nothing left"!
And quietly does nothing. No person timid and insecure, always worried about something, he's well hung language, but you have to remain silent because to tell people he had nothing. Perhaps he thus avoids quarrels, conflicts and mutual insults. Silence, like a way out, but the goal is not achievable: if a person is not able to talk to people, and getting along too!
Always agree is always looking for approval. Therefore never denies the requests. Agrees, not thinking whether he will be able to fulfill the promise. Often it is so many promises that are not able to do anything, and if anything did, it all mixed up. People whose opinion he values so much, now I can't stand it.
His life becomes a torment: every time you have to choose whose request to perform today. He understands that busy all the time, only other people's problems. He says Yes as long as he did not have time for their own Affairs, and then he begins to seriously resent other people. He becomes touchy and nervous. In the end, trying to get away at all from work.
Will then tries not to spoil relations with others, so avoid any responsibility. I mean, it's always the one from whom came the wrong decision. He puts the decision making in the hope that a better solution will come by itself. But unfortunately, if it happens, it is only when you decide it is nothing. As a result, around him complete collapse, surrounded by resentment, anger and hatred. It is clear that such a person to carry out his intention to get along with people is impossible.
Grenade. First, it seems all is quiet. But suddenly a Grenade explodes, insulting others for no apparent reason. This rage stems from the fact that is currently happening. These people like to say that nobody likes and respects.
When they think that indifference reached its climax, they explode: "Why do I try! There is nobody appreciates me, nothing no one cares! And so always! Yes, you were all"! Such a vicious tirade few people indifferent, but will cause only disgust. But that doesn't stop the Grenade, it explodes at every opportunity. When this Grenade does not conduct aimed fire, and suddenly explodes, covering it with pieces anyone who comes handy.
My boss m@K and 5 REASONS why you will soon retireThe order to be executedUpstart. Can not save a good impression for a long time, Upstart can fool you for some time, if only to be on everyone's mind. Upstart is able to exaggerate the reality so that all will accept it at face value. And his useless advice, and pointless ideas are unmatched. He can convince a whole group of normal people in anything that will lead them to trouble. In a dispute upstart will persist in their inventions for as long as you won't look as stupid as he is.published
Based on the book by R. Brinkman, "the Genius of communication"
Author: Andrey Gromov
P. S. And remember, only by changing their consumption — together we change the world! ©
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