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The trauma of betrayal

To betray and to survive the betrayal. According to the dictionary, "betray" means "to stop being loyal to someone or something, to leave or pass someone." A key term associated with betrayal, and opposite to him the meaning of loyalty. To be faithful means to fulfil its commitments, to be loyal, not to change. Faithful man you can trust, rely on him. When loyalty is broken, it becomes a cause of human suffering, betrayed.

The awakening of injury: in the period from two to four years, with the parent of the opposite sex. The collapse of trust, or unfulfilled expectations in a love-sexual sphere. Manipulation.

When the child begins to experience betrayal, it creates a protective mask – as in the cases of other injuries. Is the mask CONTROLLING

 



 

Body: Radiate strength and power. Men have shoulders wider than the hips. Women have hips wider and stronger shoulders. Chest. The stomach, too.

Eyes: Gaze is intense, seductive. Eyes that see everything at first glance.

Dictionary: "to separate(be)", "do you understand?", "I can", "I'll handle it," "I knew it", "trust in me", "I don't trust him".

Character: Considers himself very responsible and strong. Aims to be special and important. Not holding back their promises and obligations or make an effort to restrain them. Easy is lying.

Manipulator. Seducer. Has a lot of expectations. The mood is uneven. Convinced that the rights, and seeks to convince others. Impatient. Intolerable.

Understands and works quickly. Good performer, because he wants to be marked. Circus. Entrusted with the work. Not showing his vulnerability. Skeptic. Afraid to break or withdraw from a commitment.

Most afraid of: separation, divorce, detachment.

Food: a Good appetite. Eating quickly. Add the salt and spices. Can long is not as busy, but then loses control in food.

Typical diseases: Diseases control and losing control, agoraphobia, spasmophilia, disorders of digestive system, disease, the name of which ends in –it, herpes.



 

Disease of betrayal:

Agoraphobia due to his fusion with the personality the as a dependent. On the other hand, agoraphobia experienced by the controller, marked mainly by fear of madness, mask of dependent associated agoraphobia is motivated rather by the fear of death. I want to emphasize here is that doctors often confuse agoraphobia with spasmophilia.

Controlling especially attracts disease control, management of various disorders of the joints throughout the body, but most often the knee.

The most inclined he is to diseases with loss of control in certain organs of the body — bleeding, impotence, diarrhea, etc.

When he feels completely helpless in some situation, it can break the paralysis.

He often caused problems with the digestive system, especially liver and stomach.

He is prone to diseases that end in -it. Here I refer you to my book, "Your body is telling: Love yourself!" explained in detail where these diseases are especially common among persons who are under the influence of their numerous expectations are prone to impatience, anger and frustration.

The controlling is often the oral herpes — it arises when, consciously or unconsciously, believes the controlling members of the opposite sex "sickening". In addition, it is a good management tool that allows you not to kiss others.

Structure of the psychopathic character
 

This character structure requires some Preface. This is the only type of character that was not described or analysed in my earlier work. It can be very complicated but for the sake of brevity and clarity I will describe a simple form of this violation.

The essence of the psychopathic position is the denial of feelings. It differs from schizoid, which is disconnected with feelings. A psychopathic personality, ego, or reason, turns against the body and its senses, especially sexual. That's why there was the term "psychopath".

Normal function of ego is to support the aspirations of the body to the pleasure, not the destruction of it in favor of the mental representation of the ego. All psychopathic characters, there is a large investment of energy at the mental image of a man. Another aspect of this personality is the desire for power and the need to dominate and control.

The reason why this type of character is difficult, is that there are two ways of acquiring power over others. One is bullying or overcoming the other; in this case, if the person doesn't challenge the bully, it starts to feel like a victim. The second way is the effect on man by seductive approach that is very effective against naive people that fall under a psychopathic government.

Bioenergetic conditions
 

There are two types of the body that correspond to the two psychopathic structures.

The overwhelming type is more easy to explain bio-energy, and I use it for illustration. The acquisition of power over others is achieved by climbing over them.

In this model, a noticeable shift of energy to the head end of the body with a concomitant decrease in the charge in the lower part of the body. The two halves of the body is noticeably disproportionate, the upper part of the much larger and more dominant in appearance.

Eyes wary or distrustful. Such a person is not striving to get closer to others and does not understand them. It is characteristic of psychopathic personality. In most there is some compression around the diaphragm and waist, which blocks the energy flow and feelings down.

Head of energy overwhelmed. This means that there is a super-excitation of the mental apparatus, leading to constant thinking over how to gain control and dominance over the situation.

The need for control is also directed against himself. The head is held very tightly (you can never lose your head), but she, in turn, firmly holds the body in its power.

Physical characteristics

The overwhelming body type detects the disproportionate development of the upper part. It gives the impression of a sulking man and correspond to his image of a bloated ego. We can say that this structure outweighs at the top.

It is also hard. The lower part of the body is not able to detect the weakness of the typical structure of the oral type.

The body of a second type, which I called seductive or destructive, is more correct and is not sulking. The back is usually too flexible.

In both cases there is a violation of the energy flow between the two halves of the body:

• the first type of the basin is weakly charged and is kept strictly;
• in the second — he too is charged but isolated. In both types there is a clear compression of the diaphragm.

There is a noticeable tension in the ocular segment which includes the eyes and the occipital region.

Also strong muscle tension may be palpable in the cervical region along the base of the skull, in the so-called oral segment. This stress is associated with suppression of the beginning of the pulse.

Psychological ratio
 

Psychopathic personality requires someone to control, and although it may seem that she's controlling the man, yet she also depends on him. So, there is a degree of moralnosci all psychopathic personalities. In psychiatric literature they are described as having an oral fixation.

The need to control closely connected with the fear to be controlled. To be in control means to be used. We will see that in the past individuals with this character structure was a struggle for dominance and control between parent and child.

The desire to be at the top, to achieve so much that people cannot afford or allow defeat. The defeat puts him in the position of the victim; ergo, he must be a winner in any situation.

Sexuality is also always used in this game of power. He (man) is seductive in its seeming power or soft secret temptation. Pleasure in sex is secondary in comparison with the achievement or conquest.

Denial of feelings is usually a denial of needs. Psychopathic maneuver such a personality to get other people to need him, so he wouldn't have to Express their needs. Thus, it is always in the center of the world.

Etiological and historical factors





In all types of nature of a person's past explains his behavior. I could make a blanket statement that no one can understand his behavior if he doesn't know his past.

So, one of the main tasks of any therapy is to explain the life experience of the patient. In the case of this person is often is quite complex, because the psychopathic tendency of denial of the senses includes the denial of experience. Despite this, bioenergy is relatively much studied from this problem.

The most important factor in the etiology of this condition is sexually seductive, deceptive parent. The temptation is concealed and exists in order to satisfy artisticheskii the needs of the parent. It aims at binding the child to the parent.

Seductive parent is always a parent who rejects, rejects the needs of the child support and physical contact. The lack of adequate contact and support explains the oral element in the character structure.

Seductive relationships create a triangle that places the child in the position of challenging the parent of the same sex. This creates a barrier necessary identification with same sex parent and identification with the seductive parent.

In this situation, any achievement of contact makes the child extremely vulnerable. Child or rises above (offset upwards) or will meet their needs through manipulation of the parents (seductive type).

Psychopathic personality is also a masochistic element, arising from the authority of the seductive parent. The child is unable to rebel or to escape from this situation, he has exclusively domestic protection. The subjection is only on the surface; however, the extent to which the child is subject to open, it takes some intimacy with the parent.

Masochistic elements of the most powerful in enticing or seductive version of this structure of nature. The original assignment needs to go into a masochistic subordinate role. Then, when the seduction worked and affection of another person is strong, there is a sadistic quality.

Voice: you'll be Controlling a loud, booming voice.

The manner of the dance: Controlling. He loves to dance and uses this to seduce. But above all, for him this is opportunity to show themselves. From him comes the call: "Look at me".

Car choice: buys Controlling a powerful, noticeable car.

Sitting posture: sitting leaning back Controlling his whole body back and crossing her arms when listening. Taking the floor, leans forward to look more convincing in the eyes of the interlocutor.

Fears: Controlling most afraid of separation and renunciation. He does not notice how intensely he creates problems and conflict situations, which preclude further communication with individuals.

Creating, attracting to themselves situations in which it is every time someone renounces, he at the same time does not see that he was afraid of those situations. On the contrary, he assures himself that these gaps and the abdication beneficial for him. He thinks thus does not allow herself to be fooled or used.

Sociability and the willingness to make new acquaintances prevent him to realize how many people he struck out from his life. The surrounding see it much better.

And it also give the eyes. When he is angry, they become hard and inspire even the fear that can discourage many.

The trauma of gender:
 

The trauma of betrayal experienced with the parent of the opposite sex. That is controlling usually believes that he was betrayed by the person of the opposite sex, and tend to blame them for their suffering or emotions. If he relives the trauma of betrayal with a person of your gender, then blames mainly himself and angry at himself for not able to foresee and prevent this experience. It is highly likely that what seems to him a betrayal on the part of persons of his sex, is actually a experience that intensified the injury and injustice.

Healing injuries:

Your trauma of betrayal close to healing, if you're not experiencing such turbulent emotions when someone or something upsets your plans.

You easier ease grip. Let me remind you: loosen the grip — so loosen your attachment to the result, to get rid of the desire to go just as you planned.

You're not trying to be the center of attraction. When you are overcome by pride for the work done, you feel good, even when others don't notice or acknowledge your efforts.published

 

©Alexander Lowen, Liz Burbo

 

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