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Are you ready for a relationship: 10 important signs
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Some women find companions and make connections. Other — other things being equal – can't make a proper gentleman, unable to do more than flirt and stay in the brides.
Psychologists comment on it's so – so "not ready". But how to determine this readiness, and what steps should be taken to approach marriage? With the help of our expert Larisa Renar we found 10 questions, honestly answering that you can understand it time for you to wife or have to work on them.
1. If you finished your last relationship?
Formally broke with the former men, but really let go and forgave them. If not, the resentment and frustration of the past still reach for you, don't rush. Otherwise old problems will stand in the way of new feelings, and you will solve them in other ways. And your future husband should be responsible for the sins of former men?
2. Are you ready to be yourself?Like this, where you know the cat and the old ficus, but not who you are trying to show themselves on a first date. Family life is long, and over the years to "keep face" becomes unbearable. Even the usual flirting only works when it's colored by your personality. And daring the marriage, make sure your partner is familiar with you and not with your way. If he knows you from all, even the most unsightly sides?
3. Whether you're setting the bar waiting for their men?If you still repeat the "only successful, generous, kind, and with blue eyes", it is not surprising that it does not appear. The man is not a set of technical characteristics, and the person who at any time from the successful can turn into mediocre, and then do the reverse transformation. He also has the right from time to time to get angry and refuse to pay for another whim. And most importantly, he is not required to conform to someone's inflated expectations.
4. Are you ready to change? To get better and compliant, bolder, more determined, more patient and calmer. Life together will soon require change, and one of the main virtues could be just the flexibility and ability to adapt to the circumstances. Women are straightforward and inflexible to learn this science are the hardest. It is difficult for them to understand that change for the sake of the family and obey her husband, a tyrant completely different things.
5. Ripped do you communicate with parents?It's not that you have to stop to chat with beloved family. We just finally grow up and feel independent and separate person. Parental experience very often shapes our future, and scenarios that are written in the native socket, can be very different. From the repetition of life of single mothers, to not wanting to marry a man like my domineering father. And the children who were the basis of a marriage, a long time can not find their own family, because you still feel responsible for the Union of their parents. Therefore, in order to find happiness, we must clearly realize that the experience of the older generation – only their way of life to you has no relation. Get out of the parental home and start writing their own history.
In relationships you will have to change and manifest what you unusual.
6. Do you have any other problems in communication?
The fact that relationships with people we are generally the same everywhere. If you get bored very quickly on a new place of work, you can not find a common language with colleagues and never miss a chance to quarrel in public transport, and in family life you will behave exactly the same. All our shortcomings will manifest itself in marriage and will be a real test for him. So, before you start to experiment in your personal life, find your main difficulties and try to deal with them yourself.
7. Is there a future husband in your life?If you look at the life of modern women, the male it seems there are no jobs. We are always busy, in a hurry with the negotiations on Pilates, go for a weekend with friends in the mountains, and in the evening to dedicate another account of education. Even in our perfect girls ' apartments are designed so that appear at her doorstep man, he will have nowhere to place your hockey stick and a laptop. Therefore, at least mentally realize what in your life needs to take a man and clear space for him.
8. You still listen to well-wishers?"A woman can be happy only in marriage"; "After 30 you don't need you"; "Better to be divorced than never get married". All tarried with marriage girls sooner or later hear such nonsense from the imaginary-wishers. And the more such advisers around, the harder it is to understand that you are looking for a companion or trying to carry out the social order? Dismissing all the imposed stereotypes! Marriage, which was created for the sake of a happy marriage is very difficult to do.
9. You allow yourself not to be perfect?Perfect appearance, an enviable career, an expensive car and own a house? Fitness three times a week, the rest of the sea and intellectual clubs on Saturday? You are so eager to make his life more like a brochure, but to find the same impeccable companion still does not work. The fact that men admire the ideal, but here marry ordinary owners of the lovely flaws. On such, next to which you can relax and not be afraid to look like a loser. Let yourself to be a living person with his own set of positive and negative qualities.
10. Are you ready to say goodbye to their inner child?Fathers his boundless love doing us a disservice. We were so happy to be in the role of daddy dearest that, as adults, we are unable to part with it. We like when we indulge and boundless love! So we are surrounded by fans, we are experiencing the novel for the novel, but none of them ends with marriage. Girls do not marry, and as we do not mind, it is necessary to become an adult, ready to take responsibility and to share the hardships.
Of the reasons personal life is not formed, and you such clever and beautiful does not lead to the Registrar can be a lot. But they all lie within you. And even the loveliest Prince on the white horse will not be able to pave the way for your happiness while you won't exert maximum effort.
Source: domashniy.ru/
Some women find companions and make connections. Other — other things being equal – can't make a proper gentleman, unable to do more than flirt and stay in the brides.
Psychologists comment on it's so – so "not ready". But how to determine this readiness, and what steps should be taken to approach marriage? With the help of our expert Larisa Renar we found 10 questions, honestly answering that you can understand it time for you to wife or have to work on them.
1. If you finished your last relationship?
Formally broke with the former men, but really let go and forgave them. If not, the resentment and frustration of the past still reach for you, don't rush. Otherwise old problems will stand in the way of new feelings, and you will solve them in other ways. And your future husband should be responsible for the sins of former men?
2. Are you ready to be yourself?Like this, where you know the cat and the old ficus, but not who you are trying to show themselves on a first date. Family life is long, and over the years to "keep face" becomes unbearable. Even the usual flirting only works when it's colored by your personality. And daring the marriage, make sure your partner is familiar with you and not with your way. If he knows you from all, even the most unsightly sides?
3. Whether you're setting the bar waiting for their men?If you still repeat the "only successful, generous, kind, and with blue eyes", it is not surprising that it does not appear. The man is not a set of technical characteristics, and the person who at any time from the successful can turn into mediocre, and then do the reverse transformation. He also has the right from time to time to get angry and refuse to pay for another whim. And most importantly, he is not required to conform to someone's inflated expectations.
4. Are you ready to change? To get better and compliant, bolder, more determined, more patient and calmer. Life together will soon require change, and one of the main virtues could be just the flexibility and ability to adapt to the circumstances. Women are straightforward and inflexible to learn this science are the hardest. It is difficult for them to understand that change for the sake of the family and obey her husband, a tyrant completely different things.
5. Ripped do you communicate with parents?It's not that you have to stop to chat with beloved family. We just finally grow up and feel independent and separate person. Parental experience very often shapes our future, and scenarios that are written in the native socket, can be very different. From the repetition of life of single mothers, to not wanting to marry a man like my domineering father. And the children who were the basis of a marriage, a long time can not find their own family, because you still feel responsible for the Union of their parents. Therefore, in order to find happiness, we must clearly realize that the experience of the older generation – only their way of life to you has no relation. Get out of the parental home and start writing their own history.
In relationships you will have to change and manifest what you unusual.
6. Do you have any other problems in communication?
The fact that relationships with people we are generally the same everywhere. If you get bored very quickly on a new place of work, you can not find a common language with colleagues and never miss a chance to quarrel in public transport, and in family life you will behave exactly the same. All our shortcomings will manifest itself in marriage and will be a real test for him. So, before you start to experiment in your personal life, find your main difficulties and try to deal with them yourself.
7. Is there a future husband in your life?If you look at the life of modern women, the male it seems there are no jobs. We are always busy, in a hurry with the negotiations on Pilates, go for a weekend with friends in the mountains, and in the evening to dedicate another account of education. Even in our perfect girls ' apartments are designed so that appear at her doorstep man, he will have nowhere to place your hockey stick and a laptop. Therefore, at least mentally realize what in your life needs to take a man and clear space for him.
8. You still listen to well-wishers?"A woman can be happy only in marriage"; "After 30 you don't need you"; "Better to be divorced than never get married". All tarried with marriage girls sooner or later hear such nonsense from the imaginary-wishers. And the more such advisers around, the harder it is to understand that you are looking for a companion or trying to carry out the social order? Dismissing all the imposed stereotypes! Marriage, which was created for the sake of a happy marriage is very difficult to do.
9. You allow yourself not to be perfect?Perfect appearance, an enviable career, an expensive car and own a house? Fitness three times a week, the rest of the sea and intellectual clubs on Saturday? You are so eager to make his life more like a brochure, but to find the same impeccable companion still does not work. The fact that men admire the ideal, but here marry ordinary owners of the lovely flaws. On such, next to which you can relax and not be afraid to look like a loser. Let yourself to be a living person with his own set of positive and negative qualities.
10. Are you ready to say goodbye to their inner child?Fathers his boundless love doing us a disservice. We were so happy to be in the role of daddy dearest that, as adults, we are unable to part with it. We like when we indulge and boundless love! So we are surrounded by fans, we are experiencing the novel for the novel, but none of them ends with marriage. Girls do not marry, and as we do not mind, it is necessary to become an adult, ready to take responsibility and to share the hardships.
Of the reasons personal life is not formed, and you such clever and beautiful does not lead to the Registrar can be a lot. But they all lie within you. And even the loveliest Prince on the white horse will not be able to pave the way for your happiness while you won't exert maximum effort.
Source: domashniy.ru/
