If they spit in your back, know that you are ahead!

First, I ask you to say the following sentence:“I am selfish. I boldly and happily take from life everything I need to develop and achieve my goals.”

Now look inside yourself and feel how you feel about this phrase.

Objection? Fear? And probably a lot of other negative feelings... the same thing happens to most people... unfortunately.

Ideally, this phrase should elicit in you a rush of drive, joy and strength. But the fact is that from childhood almost all of us were brought up in a certain way, according to the foundations of society, we were restricted and many things were forbidden.

We were raised in the family, in school, in society. And “bred up” so that a person is enslaved by himself, in his head. The system is very advantageous when a person is deprived of his own self, or rather of high goals and the will to achieve them. We were raised to be in control of ourselves and to set limits. You often ask yourself, “Am I doing the right thing?” What will people say? Would I hurt anyone? And you ask yourself other questions like that.





So we have to adapt to life, look for our quiet corner, from youth to prove to the whole world personal value.

But man was born into the world to rule over him, to take from life all that it has to offer. Man is born to live for himself and put his interests first. As the Bible says, “Save yourselves and many will be saved around you.”

Now for an important clarification. Here we are talking about healthy selfishness, but there is also sick selfishness.

Sick selfishness is when:

• A person believes that the world owes him everything in the world and is very angry when he does not get what he wants. Usually this is how spoiled children behave - a very vivid example.
• A person lives as a consumer and parasitizes on everything that he can get both on the material level and on the subtle. He walks on his head and tries to grab for himself the good that fell into the field of view.
• There is no awareness. The sick egoist is not aware of himself, his true desires, or his actions.
• The concept of “responsibility” is completely absent. There is no willingness to take responsibility for words and actions. Such people are usually cowardly inside.
• lack of self-love and self-confidence.

Healthy selfishness is as follows:

• A person knows the laws of the universe and is able to take everything he needs without disturbing the balance between man and the world. Notice, take, not snatch. Do you feel the difference?
• People love and respect themselves. In the first case, he rather tries to prove himself and the world his great importance and is driven by weakness. A healthy egoist is full of high dignity, which comes from self-confidence, strength and tranquility. At this level comes the understanding that there is no point in war with the world, with it can be mutually beneficial to cooperate.
• Life becomes more conscious. A healthy egoist knows what he is doing, why he is doing and what he wants as a result. He goes to his goal and doesn’t listen to anyone, doesn’t look back.

If they spit in your back, know that you are ahead.

There is an anecdote that very clearly reflects the principles by which healthy and sick egoists live: Big white birds were going to fly to warm lands. And then a little gray bird flies past them. We flew with us to warm places, said the big white birds. We will fly over the ocean, you have strong wings, you can add the ocean, and I will not! Ah, said the little bird, we will fly high, you big birds have warm plumage, and I will not freeze warm! Aah, said the little bird, you big strong birds, you can get your own food, but I can't and die! Aah. "Fuck you, little grey bird!" said the big white birds and flew away. A small gray bird is small because it lives in a small world, with small goals, achieving which it considers its life to be immensely successful, gets stuck at the level of desired comfort and so survives its days. The little gray bird is always afraid of everything. There's too much fuss in her life. With big white birds, the opposite is true. They know how big the world is and what its resources are and so on. “Take what you love, or you will have to love what you have given.” – Bernard Shaw So be selfish! Know your price and love yourself! If you have goals, go to them boldly and take from life everything you need to implement them (assuming there is awareness in life). Do not be embarrassed that there will always be those who want to return you to the system, level with gray mass. Pay no attention to them, in any case, such people are always dissatisfied with something, whether it is you, with your desires, or something else.

And only in this way you can live your happy life, and not the life of parents, loved ones and completely strangers who are trying to impose something on you or reproach you with something.

How do you do that? How to become selfish and go beyond the limits imposed by the system?

To begin with, realize how deep you are in the state of “quiet water, below the grass.” It is better to turn to the mentor (psychologist, coach, guru, etc.). It will help you to realize all the limitations that you have imposed on yourself, to get out of the state of victimhood, to accept and love yourself.

Then we turn on mindfulness: we learn (with surprise) our true desires, mark our territory (to which no one has the right to access), set goals and turn on the “big white bird” mode.

Learning to live consciously always ask yourself the following questions:

Do I like it or not?

Why do I need (to write)?

Do I really need that?

What do I get out of this? What are my benefits?

Get used to asking yourself and giving yourself healthy answers. Then self-criticism will disappear of itself and there will be a feeling of satisfaction and calmness (because you have listened to the vibrations of the inner world and followed the true self... it is so nice!)

Learn to see your benefits...always...yes, always!

If they don’t, ask yourself why am I doing this? How long will I continue to act at my own expense? Remember that if there are no personal benefits, then a person stops developing because the balance of interaction with the world is disturbed.

Be sure to set a time frame, so you will mark the conscious boundaries of your altruism and avoid falling into the state of the victim, the feeling that you are seated on the neck, as well as many diseases and stresses.

And do not hesitate to admit with pleasure and joy that selfishness is beautiful!



P.S. And remember, just changing our consumption – together we change the world!

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