The psychologist Gennady Malaichuka
there is a wonderful list of types of attitude to life. Whatever happens to us in life, we have four options of how to respond to what is happening. 1. To change.
If you do not know how to change it, — learn it. 2. Make.
If you can't/don't want to change or it is impossible (and it happens more often than you want) — we have to accept. A form of acceptance is humility
— the state occurring after unsuccessful attempts to change something (before that we tried to do, humility can not occur). The formula for making his mistakes: instead of "I was wrong" tell me "wow, how interesting happened...".
(impotent anger without trying to change something or to accept).
When something annoying everywhere is a helplessness to change something in a specific area of life, which is probably not want to watch. Here and transfer the irritation to other, more secure facilities. This is an active-aggressive way of inaction. 4. Whining/complaining
(to turn into a victim who hopes that there is someone who pulls you out of the swamp).
It's a passive-aggressive way of inaction.
And how to ask for help somebody if you can't change yourself? The request for assistance may be part of a strategy to change the circumstances of life, can be part of making their own powerlessness. When whining about the do not ask for help, or demand it, or wait for the offer themselves. Irritation people ask for help and accept it can't.
Mature relationship strategies are changing and acceptance. Irritation and complaints — from the "edge" of the Arsenal. In General, both we can use, the only question that prevails.published
P. S. And remember, only by changing their consumption — together we change the world! ©
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