Man can not perceive the world totally objectively. This is similar to how you insert a slide in a projector and look at the image. The usual uniform light passing through the film turns into a picture on the screen. Perception acts as a screen, light is the outside world, and slide our worldview, then there is a model of our understanding of the world. We understand ourselves and the surrounding world is often far from the truth. Distortion make the presentation.
For example, you are concerned about some of your shortcomings, and you feel a sense of inferiority, because you feel that others don't like it either, and they don't approve. Then, talking to people, you stick to your "projector" slide inferiority complex and see everything in a distorted light.
For example, at the moment you are concerned about how you are dressed. You think others pay attention to you and watch with a smile or contempt. But in the minds of others not at all thinking about how you're dressed. These thoughts are only in your head in the form of a slide, distorting reality. Any person from your surroundings, as a rule, ninety percent busy thinking about his person – just as you are. Even if you are interviewing for a job, be sure that your interviewer himself more concerned about how best to play a role. The slides introduce distortions in your perception of what people think about you by other people. The slide is the distorted picture of reality. The slide is what is in your head, but others do not.
For example, you think your appearance is not attractive. If you don't really care about distortion there. Everything is what it is. But it's not what you think about their appearance, and what is the impact of the slide on your life. If you are concerned about your appearance, you make slide: "I'm ugly (ugly)" and see the surrounding world through him as through a filter. It is a slide because it is fixed only in your thoughts. Appearance can assess that is to give it value, only your potential partners. And this is a very small percentage of people. Rest and do not care about your appearance. Don't believe? Then ask the authoritative arbitrator, that is, from himself: as far as you are concerned about the appearance of those who are not included in the circle of your potential partners or rivals. Most likely, you have not even thought about the question – is this person attractive or not. The same think (or not think) around in relation to you. You can be sure that this is so, even if you're ugly. The deformity gives the impression only at the time of the first meeting, and then it stops paying attention to the familiar scenery.
So suppose you have inserted in the head of the slide about his unattractive appearance. Everything that comes from other people – attitudes, gestures, facial expressions, words you filtered through your slide. What will you see? A friendly smile turns into a grin. Someone's laughter in a malicious fun of you. Someone is quietly whispering – gossip about you. Someone else a quick look – you looked askance. Someone winced from the pain in my stomach – God, what is it about you thought! Finally, any compliment will turn into a mockery. But others thought it was nothing like this. It's only in your head – your slide. In accordance with such thoughts will determine your behavior which will make you really unattractive. His hands start to perform unnatural movements and you have nowhere to put them. The face will be distorted a tense grimace, all the clever ideas somewhere to disappear, inferiority complex will come into their undivided domination. In the end, the slide sitting in your imagination, to get the actual implementation. The slides are in two ways.
On the one hand, they distort people's perceptions about his place in this world and the attitudes of others. On the other hand, they distort people's perceptions about the external world. In particular, people tend to see the properties of your slide in the people around. For example, a person loves himself some innate quality of his character. He seeks to hide them away away to not see. Unsightly but the slide is impossible to conceal, he sits in the head and does the job. People have the illusion that others think and act about the same as he is. And if some qualities in yourself do not like, people tend to see the same in others, that is to hang them in our projections. Projection is when the dissatisfaction, driven into the subconscious spills out on others.
Man does not want to blame himself for some bad sides, so he is inclined to see these same parties in others. People are often willing to criticize others for what they themselves do not like about yourself.
You yourself did the same thing, not realizing. This, of course, does not mean that if the person is someone in something to accuse, then this is it. However, it happens very often.
Watch yourself. The position of Caretaker in role-playing games will allow you to easily determine when someone is trying to hang on to you its projection. If you are trying unfairly to blame, or to attribute uncharacteristic of you, ask yourself the question whether the Prosecutor what he's trying to hang on you. It is likely to be so, because if you do not, then the Prosecutor sits at the head of the slide and projecting on you his picture. What is the basis of the slide on which the film's he doing? Importance.
Once again we are already going back to it. Are you concerned about your appearance if it matters to you. The slide is in the head you have, but others do not, if they are not important what is important to you. The ugliness of man becomes a familiar backdrop to others because for them it doesn't matter. This is important only for the owner of an unusual appearance. Just looks fancy, and nothing more. The unusual appearance makes ugliness it slide importance. The famous French painter Henri de Toulouse-Lautrec in the childhood broke both legs and remained a cripple for life. While Lautrec was growing up, he was very depressed its ugliness. With years of physical imperfection was manifested ever more clearly, and from this he suffered even more. In the end, fretting over the imperfections have reached the highest point, and Lautrec had to accept the inevitable. He spat on his deformity and continued to live. As soon as he got rid of importance, the slide has ceased to exist, and luck turned to Lautrec's face. He enjoyed great success with women, not to mention the fact that he succeeded brilliantly realize your talent. He by the way, was one of the founders of the famous cabaret "Moulin Rouge" in Paris, and women loved him very much, as you know, not only because of his paintings. Slides occur when you give excess importance to what others think about you.
If you don't know what people think about you, and for you it is very important consider that you have about this absolute slide. The slide is a product of the imagination, and in this sense it can be regarded as an illusion. But this illusion has an active effect on a person's life. This is the case when the external intention of acting to the detriment of, against the will of the mind. The negative slide, as a rule, spawns unity of soul and mind.
As you know, an external intention in this case works flawlessly. It picks up the owner of the negative of the slide and transfers it to the sector where negativity manifests itself in full force. The transition occurs immediately, but gradually and lasts, without stopping, all the time while the slide sits in the head. Those minor touches that due to the importance of people in the beginning sketched on a negative slide, appear all the more stark and bloom "in all its glory". The person does not like his fullness – it is all the more fatter, it prevents the mole – she is growing more and more, he feels inferior and gets all the new evidence, he was concerned about their unattractiveness – she's even more aggravated, it hurts, guilt and punishment falling on the head. This continues for as long as people do not cease to give the slide a great value, or will not switch to the creation of a positive slide.
As soon as the importance is gone, the negative slide is losing its base is dissolved and ceases to work.
There are people with very unattractive appearance, but possessing an inexplicable charm. Once they speak, you immediately forget about their physical shortcomings. Now do you understand why? They've put negative slides and put positive. Also interesting: the Illusion of self-confidence 3 illusions that interfere with your mental health
you Should insert positive, color slide and you will see that it works as smoothly as the negative. Show myself the positive side of his personality, imagine yourself in the best light, and people will perceive you the same way.
This is another positive quality of the slide, which can and should be used.published Author: Vadim Zeland P. S. And remember, just changing your mind — together we change the world! ©