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This nuance in dealing with children will make them successful in the future
Expecting a child, many parents read various books, which fall under their arm, that can be during pregnancy, how to raise a child, how to avoid the dangers and so on.
< But few said about one simple thing in the upbringing of children, to help them become more successful in the future.
Dr. Carol Dweck argues that the future of man depends on what type of thinking will plant a child in a child: thinking growth or fixed mindset
Fixed thinking means. that our character, intelligence and creativity are static, given to us by nature.
Thinking growth is not afraid of challenges and sees the defeat not as a proof of stupidity, and as a springboard for the development of and new opportunities.
From what type of thinking develops in humans in early childhood, independent of his career, relationships and, ultimately, the ability to be happy.
Here are simple examples of how to distinguish between these two kinds of thinking. Praise the child does not need for talent, and the ability for learning
The child reading the book to you:.
FIXED thinking - "What are you clever!» industrial growth - "What are you trying to learn so, and this is what results achieved! Here's how you can »
The child quickly assembled puzzle:!
FIXED thinking -" What clever I grow! You all know how » industrial growth -" Oh, it's too easy for you, you have to give you a more complex puzzle. You, is so fast around you learn! And with the difficult task you have as well to deal »
The child was 4 per test:!
Fixed thinking - "You got 4 for the test? . Well done, good » industrial growth - 'You got 4 for the test? So you know the topic well. I bet that if you try to write tomorrow, this test again, you will not go wrong at the same issues, and get exactly 5! »
It would seem that the difference in dialogue is almost invisible, but its influence on the fate of the child can be overwhelming.
When you praise the child is not for talent but for diligence and ability to learn, you give him to understand that he's not a miracle of birth, but work and perseverance, you can achieve a lot. And the failures and setbacks - this is normal. Self-esteem does not drop the baby, because he knows that it all depends on his effort and he has not a chance to prove it.
Dr. Dweck and her colleagues conducted a study on this subject: in the two years they watched a group of seventh graders who deliberately planted different types of thinking. Here are the results: two years evaluating children have not changed, all trained at the same level, but the goals pursued in the school they are completely different
. The number one goal for children with a fixed mindset was to look smart at any price in the eyes of others, and their behavior was aimed at eliminating otherwise. Children with the growth mindset were not afraid of failure, their main rule was to learn in any case and at any price.
This will be easier to survive life's challenges and develop, the conclusion is obvious. So think about what you are thinking of planting their child. This is really an important part of education process, it should not lose focus.
See also:
To educate a child does not mean to explain to him how to live
The child does not need to educate and raise
7 parenting mistakes that prevent children to achieve success
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