Do not look for the causes of childhood

If you are suffering from unrequited love, do not look for problems in childhood.

It is like that the keys do not look where lost, and under the lamp, because there is more light, as a joke. It is not related to your problem according to your childhood.

Let me say again. < Your innocent childhood, your relationship -. Now it's your habit You can get rid of it. Now, rather than in the past.
Do not listen to anyone who tells you that you will choose from one of dependence and immediately find yourself in another, because your child has a persistent problem. < No you have no child, it is long gone, all your unsolved problems in the present, and the main unresolved issue - it's your relationship
. All dependencies are very similar - that of spirits lovers, it's that the food that love, and if you see this similarity, you will much easier to understand what you do

. Conventionally, any relationship can be divided into physical and psychological part, and even physical-psychological, that and that, and another - not divide even suspended. There are three parts, and we look at them now.



< The physical part
. The physical part is felt most harshly, painfully, but exhausted rather quickly. The body is not receiving the drug, and get with it some vitamins, medicines, water, quickly recovers and begins to function normally. However, problems with the physical and psychological addiction and psychological parts remain.

Note that the physical part of addiction can not have a relationship to the past. In the past, people physically do without the drug, he lived himself, and is currently living his body another, he dies without it. Tomorrow breaking will take place, the body adapts and can again do without this substance.

We also love addiction is a physical part. This panic and pain throughout the body, especially the heart and solar plexus when a loved disappears from life or going to disappear. The presence of a loved one is inscribed in the physical metabolism, it does not inject into a vein or inhaled into the nostrils, but see it, they breathe, his concern, they feed on. < favorite for love addict - physically necessary element of life
. But as in the case of an alcoholic and a drug addict, a deadly panic, sweat, trembling and tachycardia separation from loved ones pass quickly. Man is no longer experiencing an acute break-up, and at the forefront of the physical-psychological dependence.



< And this part again has no relation to the past, your childhood, your youthful experience. No. People with different experiences of childhood and experience this part of the same way
Do not your mom is to blame, or even a neighbor who scared you, pulling something out of his pants, not a harsh first teacher. and a boy who ridiculed you in the third grade in response to a declaration of love.
An alcoholic who has got rid of the physical part of his addiction, begins to slide into apathy due to physical and psychological dependence. He will never die without alcohol, but also to live without it can not yet. He has no strength to life, he feels powerless and useless vegetable. Therefore, thoughts come to drink, feel at least for a time of joy and self-confidence, that is, the normal power state. No sources of energy, except addiktina for strong addict, you know

Love addict - the same


and what about the psychological part of the addiction?
But here it is useless to look for problems in childhood than a lot of people involved in the therapy. As a child, all external locus, and self-dependent. There are no different. Only an adult person can become independent and start a control. < Scold mother for what she praised little or too much in control, it is meaningless, because while the person was under the authority of my mother, small, and he could not become a full-fledged person, even if the mother was the most-the most correct.










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