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childhood affects us more than it seems. Hundreds of studies talk about it. The origins of how we conduct ourselves in adulthood, it is often rooted in our childhood. If today you are suffering from obesity, or grew up, she became very secretive man, you look back and you can tell when it started.

1. If your parents did not allow you to make independent decisions, then grew up, you become a person in a pathological dependence on partnёraEsli your wonderful parents did not allow you to dress as you want, not allowed to choose their own friends and food, eventually you can become a person who is pathologically dependent on partners - said Advisor on Mental Health Laura Dessauer.

This means that when you get older, you start to look for such a relationship in which all power and all control will be concentrated in the hands of your partner.

2. If you were close with his father, now you do not have problems in intimate zhizniEsli childhood you had a close emotional bond with his father, the later in life you will be able to maintain healthy intimate relationship with your partner.

"The study found a clear link between the quality of father-son relationship and interpersonal relationships later in life," - said lead researcher Dr. Nurit Nahmani.

3. If your parents constantly control you, you can become very stubborn vzroslymUpryamstvo - a defense mechanism that produced the children that they can resist the will of the parents, who are constantly seeking to control them. Growing up, children usually do not lose this trait.



4. If you watch TV too much, then you can be suppressed obscheniyaPonablyudav skills in the study of mothers and their children, the researchers concluded that television is able to weaken the bond between parent and child. Even when parents and children watched the same transmission, comments of parents, as a rule, were completely unrelated to what their children say. And since it is communication with parents forms the primary social skills of the child, is unproductive communication does not provide these skills normally formed.

5. Viewing gear with scenes of violence can make you agressivnymPo According to 15-year study, children change their behavior after the scenes of violence in which the performers are rewarded for committing violence. For example, if your child shows the detective, who managed to summon the killer to justice after a serious collision with it, it will lead to the fact that the child will be more than enough, to push and fight. Even after he or she grow up.

6. If you imitate their parents, then - open chelovekEsli you copied everything that makes your parents, even if it did not make sense, you quickly realize that all of your actions result in some, often unexpected, results. Later, it will make you more open to cultural exchange and transfer of information.

This activity is characteristic only of man, chimpanzees have shown that too can imitate the actions, but only if these actions are practical benefits.

«This is only us, and do not primates", - psychologist Mark Nielsen of the University of Queensland in Australia.

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7. If you are often punished, then matured, you can become skrytnymV his book «Drive» author Daniel Pink explains that attempts to influence the behavior of the child, offering him a reward or punishment, often result in the desired behavior. Instead, children will by all means try to avoid being caught next time.

Conclusion: if you have a child often punished, you are likely to behave even worse, however, knew how not to get caught. And eventually you can become a very secretive adult.

8. If your parents abused alcohol, you are probably a very serious vzroslyyEsli you were growing up and were witness to how your parents abuse alcohol or drugs, it is very likely that they themselves gradually became "parents" for their own mom or dad.

So how do you, in fact, missed his entire childhood, then it became extremely serious and can have difficulties in order to get a good fun. And yet you're too responsible.

9. If you have been traumatized as a child, then as adults, can get ozhirenieNeskolko studies have shown a correlation between sexual harassment (and other traumatic childhood experiences) and an eating disorder. A study of 2007 shows that women survivors of childhood sexual abuse, the risk of obesity increases by 27% compared with women who had not been subjected to such violence. And men, this risk increased to as much as 66%.



10. If a child with you abused, you often suffer from depression King's College London examined 26,000 people and found that people exposed to various forms of child abuse, depression occurs twice as often as the average. The causes of this phenomenon, a few: the lack of communication between mother and child, overly rigid discipline in the family, violence, breeds fear.

11. If you grew up in poverty, your short-term memory will huzheLyudi who come from lower socio-economic strata, in adulthood have not too good short-term memory (that is, the ability to hold multiple memory objects), found Research University of Oregon. < br />
12. If your parents divorced when you were little, in adulthood it will negatively affect your otnosheniyahEsli them with your parents divorced when you were between the ages of 3 to 5 years, it is likely your relationship with them will be very tense, when you grow up, especially the relationship with his father, according to researchers from the University of Illinois. However, early parental divorce will not affect your relationship with the opposite sex.

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