Psychologist-child if the father is not interesting


The modern pace of life is constantly creating new family model: the civil and guest marriages, divorced couples who are raising children at a time, independent mother, completely taking over the care of the child. It is no secret that often the parent's shoulders a great responsibility for the child. What if the father is almost does not fulfill its role?

Dad can Difficulties arise with the Pope, as a rule, where the harmony is disturbed relations between the parents themselves. Therefore, ideally, it would be worth to find out if everything is OK at home. But in practice, quite difficult to simultaneously solve the problems of the relationship, and to share the care of children. Besides, mistakes that allow the mother, is not always associated with quarrels with her husband.

1. The father's behavior can not satisfy you completely, but to replace it with his tutelage at double the rate will still fail. For the child, it is equally important and chat with his father, and communication with the mother.

2. You can try to teach the pope be pope, but it is wrong to impose the style that you think only vernym.3. It is important not to confuse his claim to his father's manner of education and feelings of the child. You may not like what Dad's participation is limited to a joint evening watching cartoons, but this kid can be quite enough.

4. In the explanation of the relationship with the Pope, whether they concern your personal affairs or education issues, should not be involved children.
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Father is a good lad! The task of "re" the Pope from the beginning may seem difficult and almost impractical, especially since it is far from the truth. The idea to inspire the established adult man the truth about the importance of paternal involvement in the fate of children - is strange. For those who voluntarily decided to become a dad, like it should be understood without further explanation.

However, in reality a lot of obstacles. Ignoring duties towards the child is related to the fear of not cope, lack of good examples of communication with his father, convinced that the role of the father - is earnings, and the rest - at the sole discretion and at your leisure. In addition, and on the part of a spouse can occur unconscious jealousy of his wife, the discontent of its role and a simple lack of understanding of the situation.

But the reality is quite overcome. Compliance with certain regulations in the communion with the Pope after a short period of time can make a difference. It is important to learn to distinguish and separate itself of interest to the child and his commitment to education. You can be a loving father, but did not understand how to raise children. There are other examples too active paternal upbringing overrides normal human kindness and tenderness

. As interest. Do not imagine a man "evil investigator", involving solely in order to rein in rambunctious toddler. The participation of a spouse must be comprehensive and harmonious, and not be in the cries or Punishment. Moreover, if the Pope still has adopted a decision, do not cancel it.

However, if you see that a father shows to the child outright rudeness or aggression, insults and humiliates him, it is necessary to intervene and explain the unacceptability of such behavior.

In no event it is impossible to make fun of in the presence of the child's father's behavior. On the contrary, the policy will help to strengthen its authority, "Dad can so-and-so", "this is better to ask the pope, he knows." Ask the father that it is possible not shied away from answering children's questions, because thanks to him that the child really knows about what you do not. The feeling of self-worth and wisdom, good motivation.

You can find a common activity. Perhaps the father and the child went to the museum, interesting and dad played in the game he loves and the father. Even if it's a stupid computer "shooter", which you do not approve. If you see that some of the entertainment did not match the child's age or dangerous for him, is to talk about it.

It is important not to hesitate to ask for help to solve some domestic issues. It is necessary that the father really understood that can not do without his help. But here we must not overdo it, turning everything into a continuous obyazalovke.

Be sure to leave a child alone and dad - at home or on a walk. The "free" contact communication will improve much faster. Sometimes it is possible and "slukavit" ran away from home under the pretext of the many cases (and indeed, there will always be the case).

But it is possible to make and own efforts: for example, the three of us play together. This will strengthen and family relations. Enter the father in the swing of things as a child behaves in his absence: missed him when he was at work, waiting for his return. Collect the entire collection of funny and touching, said a child for a day, and if something out of this is due to the Pope, it is of particular importance.

But criticism is not constructive in difficult cases. Moreover, what you think "nonsense" - is not always a bad thing. Well, when a man behaves like a child, and can move to a more user-friendly for baby style of communication.

Encourage communication with other dads happy fathers, to carry out attacks in those families where parents are actively communicate with their children. Such examples can be contagious.


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