«Only fools never change their mind» («Only fools do not change" - approx. Website ), - says my boyfriend for whom I have three years I moved back to France. And he is certainly right. It is impossible not to change at least a little, when you change a way of life to another. The daily routine, everyday habits just a drop in the sea of all that was suddenly different.
This article - my conditional trait that we can sum up under one of the defining moments of my life - the decision to move abroad. So, 10 things I learned from the French:
Be polite always, everywhere, all - how to breathe. I do not remember that I ever was boorish or rude to strangers. Saying "hello" and "thank you," I was taught as a child, and for me it is a constant. But only after I move:
began to apologize when his leg in transport come to me; do not just say "goodbye" to sellers, waiters and postmen, but also wish everyone "good evening / good day / excellent weekend »; use polysyllabic apology« pardon-excusez-moi »(« forgive me "- a comment. Website ), because a word is clearly not enough for a total of politeness; to skip at the checkout supermarket those with a bottle of water and a bag of apples, when I have the goods to EUR 100; to greet the residents of the county in which I live, even if I had them I do not know (of course, I do not know), but we all somehow secretly neighbors. do a hundred thousand everyday polite gestures that you stop noticing, because the surrounding behave. And let courtesy of the French often formal, cold and has no heart. But it is. She hovers in the air. And it gives the feeling that the only way you need, just as it should be.
Always demand more and better. And be brisk with waiters. Anyone who has lived in France for at least a couple of years, will tell you that with the service at the local big problems. Well, they are not able to go to the consumer so that he felt like the king of the party, whether it is buying a sofa, a glass of chardonnay or a Bentley. And about French waiters and all you can compose the sinister legends. Many of them began like this: "His icy indifference could chop into pieces and thrown into a cocktail ... if he even brought one».
I do not hesitate to attract attention at the table arm raised high, reminding that "nearing midnight, and the first all there is," and do not leave a tip if the service kind of was, but at the same time was not. < br />
buy food on the market; meat, cheese, fruits and vegetables - in specialized shops The market in France is almost like a small open-air museum. Food is so beautiful, clean and so photogenic lined on the shelves, almost smiling at you. In short, a trip to the market here - it's a pleasant event, rather than a duty.
Supermarkets, on the background of pale and huddled in the corners, although vegetable departments in them is also very cool. But the market - it's a different story ... The atmosphere fragrances - when, after all seen and bought back home, ready with great pleasure. Supermarkets do not inspire.
Go for foods with a cart, basket, durable, reusable bag or cloth bag. Conventional plastic or plastic bags here, of course, also sold. And people take them at the checkout counter in stores. But it is likely to occur in those cases when you have forgotten to take home one of the above items. There is no habit each time to drag home a new package if you can buy one and use it lasting a year or two.
And if to be a large-scale purchase, people take with them truck. For us, they remained an echo of a certain time, a certain "grandmother" attribute. And here they are at all.
to stop being afraid of age, to respect old age, because it can and should be beautiful. In short: looking at the French pensioners, you just stop being afraid that once you will be 70, and all of life's joys for you end. Because here people of all ages do not forbid myself to enjoy life and savor every day. It does not matter to them 50, 65 or 80.
plan vacations in advance. Very beforehand. That is very, very in advance. This summer, the circumstances were such that I and my French did not know until recently, in exactly what date will rest. Therefore, book accommodation and tickets are almost sitting on their suitcases. It's something out of the ordinary. Because here adopted deal with the summer vacation somewhere in February. The only way you can choose the most advantageous offer, save on air travel and, finally, just to save a couple of hundred of thousands of nerve cells, without delay such an important matter for later.
Enjoy the moment. Not in a hurry. I appreciate their right to rest. To be able to relax. So, what I'm saying, is best illustrated by the ability of the French to drink one glass of wine on the terrace of a cafe for an hour. And just as dinner for four hours. People at the table talking, tell stories, share experiences, but gossip, finally. Food and alcohol - is accompanied by celebration of life, which they arrange themselves every day. How to spend an unforgettable day? - Carry out and memorize it. That's about it. Do not run, do not fuss, do everything measured. Everything is done with pleasure.
Always keep in the refrigerator for several kinds of cheese and a bottle of white wine. Someone keeps red. Not in the refrigerator. But the permutation of terms, as they say ... I've always loved the cheese, but only after moving to Paris to see how different, unexpected and delicious it can be. Cheese plate - is the answer to all the questions when I'm too lazy to cook, when suddenly came to visit when you need to figure out a snack for watching movies ... just like when. And where cheese and wine there.
dress up and use cosmetics primarily for themselves. But here it is not only moving, but also in growing up as such. 20 and 27 years - a different look and approach to it. Different perceptions of femininity, attractiveness and promise that is in your manner of dress, painted and comb. A bonus in the form of acquaintance with European relaxation and ease in this matter, in my opinion, the best thing that can happen to a woman who grew up in a patriarchal culture. In a society where women are supposed to dress so as to be attractive to men. Where is her appearance priori to be tuned for live bait fishing.
Europeans, by contrast, want to be attractive to you. And they want to keep your feet do not hurt, so hello, flat sole, beautiful shoes, exquisite ballet flats and so on. With the make-up is the same story. Emphasize the best - yes. Dorisovyvat new - no.
To thank for the incredible beauty around and a huge opportunity, which gives life in France. Even if you will not leave. Even if you spend all weekend here, all holidays and vacations. It's like an endless well of art history, aesthetics, taste and discoveries. And if you travel ... Everything - from the cost of the ticket loukost and there is no need to do a Schengen visa - each time gives a fantastic feeling that you could hug the whole world and not to drown while in the depths of bureaucracy.
The formula by which one way or another all immigrants live (if they are, of course, grateful people for life), is as follows: do not forget their roots and be grateful for the opportunities
France, thank you.