Psychology of communication — the TOP 10 best books

You know, there are moments in life when it is necessary to do so, as sings the spleen is to "bend the line". What to do when the teacher does not want to raise the standings, head does not give vacation, finding a lot of reasons and a new job, and the child does not take in a kindergarten in the neighborhood? How to find with people common language, learn to understand them and achieve their objectives through normal everyday conversation? For people who are interested in these questions, we have compiled the TOP 10 books about the psychology of communication.

10. "The power of charm. How to win hearts and achieve success" (Brian Tracy, Ron Arden)





You know what to a greater extent on success? No, not from smart pastigov in the VC and motivating videos, and certainly not from repost news about free spins. Much of the success depends on the ability to communicate with people, understand them, be able to create a special relationship seller-buyer, husband-wife, friend-friend. If you will be welcoming, charming and pleasant with you to talk, expect, success is not far off. At least it says so in this book.

Why is it not as good as others? For the most part it teaches You to pretend to be who you really are. It's more a Handbook on how to be a slippery slimy, sickly man, after communication with which you want to drink some water. Compared to other books, which are taught to work hard, to be honest, friendly, organized – this book offers: "Pretend everywhere, and you will then believe in their sincerity". Don't know about You, but does not inspire me.

 

9. "Psychology of influence" (Robert Cialdini)





"Psychology of influence" has withstood 5 editions in the US, which says about its usefulness and value for readers. But is it really or maybe people just did not come across anything better arm?

This book on many sites is called a classic of business literature, but I don't think it can be called such, because it is written only in 2001. Too little time has passed to become a classic in the likeness of Freud's or Carnegie. Therefore, such strong statements should be taken with a certain skepticism.

What good is this book? It describes how motivation, how to make decisions to weed out unnecessary information, as well as the principles of successful sales, because the author of the book long studied the topics of management and marketing.

Why is "Psychology of influence" is such a low tier in the rankings? Because for many readers it has seemed difficult to read, big and very boring, there were even complaints about the primitive and irrelevant examples that Cialdini brings.

 

8. "Hidden control person" (Victor Shein)





This author is very successful in the field of books about the manipulation of people. How to manipulate with compliments and humor, and how to protect yourself from these techniques. As for the book "Hidden control person", as the name suggests, to control the person teach so that he even about it do not suspect. Well, who wants to be deceived, and to him right in the forehead said he a chump, just do not understand?

The book presents many examples of various techniques of manipulation and explains how they work. How to achieve the desired, if you are in the position of the worker-boss, child-parent, man-woman business. The book is for those who want to get a lot just by using the flexibility of the mind.

 

7. "The Mentalist" (Frederic Rapeli)





If you are a lover of not only books, but also the quality of the series, then you are at. The show "Mentalist", is one of the best detective series in the world. And a logical question arises: "Who is this mentalist?".

People who are not familiar with the concept of mentalism, associate this concept with psychic abilities, it is telepathy or clairvoyance. Although, in fact, mentalism is a performing art. Sometimes this person has some skills in hypnosis, but everything else – the skill of beautifully presented information, to arrange a show that will make people open your mouth.

Mentality kind of charlatans, after all, earn the trust of the people. But they have a very flexible mind, they are observant, likable, able to ferret out the person the right information, to anticipate their desires.

In the book Frederick Rapily tells whether you possess such unusual abilities and how to do it. The story relies on the plot of the series "the Mentalist": the book includes many stories about red John and other cases of characters that should please fans of the show.

 

6. "Grandmaster of communication" (Sergey mistle thrush)





You know, there are moments in life when you realize that dream of being a Princess when you grow up, did not materialize, and the time just goes on and on. And you adapt to the boring cliche "I'm an adult", doing the usual adult things, but life is still not enough joy. I want to read a book, and that, as a child, with kartinochku.

Especially for You! We carry dreams. Read beneficial, educational books for adults with pictures! Have fun and learn! Find out what your partner is thinking during a conversation, and that he really wanted to say; how to get others to pay attention to your words and their importance, how to learn to listen and speak to people properly — all in the book "Grandmaster of communication".

To obvious pluses of the book mistle thrush should include the friendly tone of the narrative. The author encourages not to use others, and time after time resembles that described in the book techniques will be effective only in tandem with good intentions: if behind them is a sincere desire to establish good relations with other people.

 

5. "Do not growl at dog" (Karen Pryor)





"Do not growl on a dog! The book is about training people, animals and yourself" — this is the full title of the book. About the procedures provided in it, you can read a lot of positive feedback. The book teaches not cruel to manipulate people, to hypnotize them or something like that — it's built on positive reinforcement, which in the author's opinion, is the best way to get the desired result.

For those who don't know, positive reinforcement is a kind of candy that gets people for their actions. I.e., praise, gifts, various rewards, if the result of your work will satisfy the person who is trying to manipulate you.

Why this scheme works? And who does not pleased to hear in his address: "well Done! You did a great job!" And to do something for a person more pleasant. Feel? You are already on the hook.

And all is good, but rumor has it that you can learn to control even their animals, not what to get your husband to get off the couch. And here, poking around, I found a quote from the book, how to teach a cat not to climb on tables.

Don't know about You, but anything positive is to squirt the cat with water, I do not see. And even the author himself says that the cat will continue to make started, only behind Your back. If the whole book is saturated with such methods, I doubt that you'll get from people.

 

4. "Group psychology and the analysis of the ego" (Sigmund Freud)





Often, in order to understand the truth, we need to dig deeper. Not just to look at the consequences and draw conclusions, and to look to see the reasons that led to this. Like no other, this task is handled by the "father" of psychoanalysis, grandpa Freud. Not to include it in the ranking, we could not. Without the writings of this man would not have been such a huge breakthrough in psychology.

What we are offering his book "mass Psychology and analysis of human I"? The topics covered are not simple, but they will help You first understand yourself. Here is revealed the essence of the relationship between parents and children, men and women, sisters and brothers. You will understand why some people are scary "daffodils" and what motivates them; how our subconscious mind works and why people are social beings who always need a leader.

 

3. "How to talk to anyone, anytime, anywhere" (Larry king)





Larry king is a world – famous journalist. He is a professional in his field and in the world of media is considered a great honor if Larry will give an interview or participate in your program, will be guest, or voiced one of the cartoon characters. Having huge experience in life, king decided to share it with us.

If you are one hundred percent introverted and dealing with people for you a living hell, and require only love, the wife always mutters, not talking to her, and the cashier dumbstruck by the question: "the Package?", this book is definitely for you. It has good advice on how to overcome insecurity and fear when talking and awkward when communicating with strangers.

 

2. "How to win friends and influence people" (Dale Carnegie)





Carnegie is considered a classic of this genre of literature. Why we've included the TOP as "nathany" and not the last sample of the literature? As my teacher of world literature: "All went to antiquity."

And the truth is, the world evolves. But only because of the past experience, we learn from mistakes, learn to fix them. And there are things which from ancient times was so right and so practical that exist and produce fruit to this day.

The same thing, I think, with books Carnegie. At first glance, they described a simple and obvious; sometimes it seems that this goes without saying and the author simply comes up with the bike. But no. Sometimes people forget about the simple ethical standards and behave like pigs, which do not want to communicate at all.

"Everything ingenious is simple" — you can read between the lines of this book. In order for the people bailed you did what you had helped — you just need to remember a couple simple things: the name of the person to be polite, friendly, to smile, to be able to listen...

I want to share with You an interesting fact – of Dale Carnegie has amended his books throughout his life, to meet the changing and growing needs of people. The author is very quick to respond to the emergence of new trends in the life of society and to improve their techniques. If Carnegie had lived a little longer, maybe his books would be subjected to the new amendments.

 

1. "Games people play" (Eric Berne)





Every day people communicate with each other. There are some clear lines of conduct, phrases, clichés, banal things. Sometimes we do not notice how when communicating with a person trying to put himself above, to show that we are better and get out of this conversation emotional victory. But there is in our world, people are wise and observant. Such a person wrote the book, "Games people play".

In 1964, the book caused a furor. It is two years, never left the first place in the list bestseller of the newspaper "new York times". For the first three years of its existence it has been sold 600 thousand copies. So she definitely deserves our attention.

 



Relationship check: Thanks and move on

 

ALWAYS pay attention to your premonitions!

 

The book includes 120 games that people play with each other in everyday life. We draw in some circumstances, in others we fall, get caught and drawn independently. Here's how to avoid a similar fate and fight such influence: ourselves such antigra. You can learn how to analyze the different nuances of your communication with people, to get rid of stereotyped thinking and behavior, which interferes in daily life.

After 8 years, Byrne has written a sequel to his masterpiece, with a very similar name, "People who play games". Also recommended reading.published

 



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