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Why is the strongest relationships in couples where one - the logic, and the second - emotsional
in the same situation, people act differently. This is especially true of difficulties both at work and in personal relationships. It is believed that people with different views on life and different behaviors together is easier to cope with difficulties and remain a couple, what people look like.
< Website feels that a grain of truth in this certainly is, therefore I translated an article for you about which couples can be very strong.
People are unpredictable. Trying to understand them, to guess their feelings, think about how best to do - and still wrong. It seems that there are no laws.
But there has people on something based, when the decision, right?
System Myers-Briggs typology divides people into two camps:
- Logic - make decisions based on logic and objective facts, all carefully weighed.
- emotional - take decisions based on feelings and intuition, are assessing how it will affect them and to the relatives. It is believed that most happy couple - a logic plus emotsional. Of course, in this case known right or wrong choices No one decides who to love. Two logic or two emotsionala can happily live a lifetime. But the logic is easier to get on and keep the relationship with emotional, precisely because they are different, they have two different approaches to the same problem. For example:
1. Logic takes into account the facts. Emotsional take into account the feelings h3> In the beginning of the relationship logic takes into account the real facts: social status, financial resources, their free time, and whether he needs is now in a relationship.
Emotsional take into account the feelings. Even if all the objective facts against the relations emotsional, if we fell in love, for the sake of future happiness will do anything.
By the way, most people agree it is due to emotional.
2. Logic says the outward signs of the disorder. Emotsional just sees that the disorder came h3> Logic understands that the relationship deteriorated when he sees concrete evidence like flirting with another partner or a message from a stranger "Kisses, Zai».
Emotsional notice changes in facial expressions and tone of voice. It just feels that everything is bad, without any evidence.
It is usually the first emotsional indicates that a crack in the relationship.
3. Logic first notices the bad. Emotsional sees good h3> All the couples are difficult times. But if both partners see only the worst, down the drain.
When the logician gave up and saw some bad things, emotsional mobilized and begins to look good - the very reasons why the two of them have to stay together.
The chances to keep the relationship the couple "logic-emotsional" much higher. When it has not yet reached a frank conflict emotsional clinging to them by all means.
4. For the logic of the conflict - a natural part of relationships. For emotsionala - disaster h3> Logic recognizes that the conflict - it is a problem to be solved.
For emotsionala conflict - is a disaster; he will suffer and be afraid, yet again to establish harmony. And in order to achieve harmony of all good.
Logic solves conflicts emotsional runs from them. Therefore, if rigid differences logics can do to save the relationship longer.
5. Logic solves problems. Emotsional waiting until the logic of their resolve h3> If the logic realized the problem, it works - gives flowers, bake delicious pizza and compliments.
Emotsional does not even try to fix something while the opposite sense of fear and resentment itself does not take place.
That is why one person always gives gifts, and the other takes.
6. Logic wants to take responsibility. Emotsional just wants to be loved. H3> Logic accepted responsibility - he was comfortable when the control in his hands. He lost if the keeper does not feel the relationship.
Emotsional also takes great care. He is lost if there is no love and attention needed by.
Option note: if the partner is depressed, hugged him more often.
7. Logic wants to understand why this is happening. Emotsional want to understand why this is happening to him h3> If the conflict logics want to know exactly what happened. He needs a comprehensive answer to the question of why the relationship did not add up. We have another partner? Or Sex is not very good?
Emotsional will be no end to think, what's wrong with him. He wants to know, what did he do that a partner turned away from him. He is important to determine what is his fault.
Logic threatened rupture will try to establish a dialogue and, most likely, will establish and emotsional prefer to dig in itself.
8. Logic is looking for the truth. Emotsional agree to close their eyes, if necessary h3> Logic honest not only with others but also with himself. If he realizes that he is guilty, then he recognizes the error.
Emotsional does not always want to know the truth. For it is sometimes preferable to a sweet lie. For the sake of the relationship, he is able to lie to himself.
Yes, people are different, and there is no recipe for happiness. But perhaps in a situation where two logic decide that together they do nothing but two emotsionala completely fell out, logic and emotsional fail to pick up the pieces and glue the broken vase. Sometimes hard times just have to survive , and paired with different views on things and different behavior to make it happen more easily.
According to the materials: elitedaily
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