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- < We stopped to try
When we have chosen a partner, our view is still looking for other options nearby. Because we have a choice. And this choice is killing us. We believe the more chance we have, the better. But, in fact, it is doing some "diluted." So we never feel satisfied. By and large, we are not even aware that such satisfaction as it looks, sounds and feelings. One foot we are always somewhere else, because there, at the door, even more options. More, more, more.
We assure themselves and distracting. But if we can not meet face to face with their own "demons", how can we love someone else, and this is doubly difficult? We surrender. We are leaving. In fact, we see the world as limitless as he is not seen no generation before us. We can open a new tab in the browser accidentally stumble upon photos of Portugal, get a credit card from her purse and immediately book a plane ticket. We do not do this, but we can. The fact that we can, even if we do not have a lot of funds in the account. Instead, we tease yourself - open Instagram, look at other people's lives, that we might have. Enjoying the places where we have never been. People that have never met. We are "bombarded" by external stimuli themselves and wonder why we are so unhappy. Why all felt somehow hopeless. And here's why: we do not have the slightest idea about what is our life, but we can clearly see what it is not.
For example, if we find the person we love and who loves us. Sentence. Proximity. "I love you." Yes, we did it. Then, with lightning speed, we are putting our love for show. We tell people that we are now in a relationship, changing the status on Facebook. We throw their photos in Instagram. We become "we." This "we" should look brilliant and perfect. Therefore, we do not share quarrels up to 3 hours of night photos red eyes and tear-stained sheet. We do not write in 140 characters Twitter that a minute ago, we had a conversation, which casts doubt on the future of our relations. No, so we do not share. We are a happy couple appeared with the ideal relationship.
Then we see other similar "happy" couple. And compare yourself to them. We have become a generation of Emoji. Generation of choice. Generation comparison. Generation, which is measured in husky. Good. Good enough. Best. Never before have we had such a cornucopia of markers for how life should look like "best possible." We press «enter», «enter», «enter» and soon find ourselves in despair. We will never be good enough, because what we're trying to measure, the devil does not exist. This is no life. As there is no such relationship. But we can not believe it. After all, we've seen it with my own eyes, in your own tape Facebook. And we want it. And we will suffer until we get it.
And we parted. Because they themselves are not good enough, and our relationships and life do not reach an imaginary ideal. Again, we turn over the pages with profiles. Again we order someone like pizza delivered right to the door. And it all starts over again. Emoji character. Sex. Messages "Good morning." Joint self. Shining happy couple. Compare. Compare. Compare. Inevitably and discreetly covers the new wave of dissatisfaction. Night quarrel. "With us that something is wrong." "This does not work". "I need something more." We disagree. Another lost love.
And the next time will be the same. Another quick success. Another attempt to fit life in 140 characters, frozen filtered images, four going to the movies. We are so concerned about creating a shiny, happy life. And that is the ideal, and who invented it? We do not know, but damn it want.
But it is something "more", for which we are constantly chasing a lie. In fact, we want to talk on the phone. We want to see the face of a loved one or beloved live, not on the screen. We want everything to be gradual. We want simplicity. We want our lives are not exhaustive huskies, sherami, subscribers, comments and votes. We may not know yet what we want it, but it is. We want a real deep connection. We want a love that will build, not destroy. We want people to come to visit. We want at the end of the day we would be confident that lived a life full of meaning. That's what we want. Even if you do not know this.
However, because we do not yet live. So we do not like.
Author: Jamie Varon
Translation: Website
Preview: Veronica Caycedo
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