When people get married, it is only a few are beginning to explore the psychology of the family, as there was a problem. Dale Carnegie, the famous American educator, son of a farmer, giving universal tips on how not to make family life a torture.
When our house there is a new washing machine or vacuum cleaner, we first read the instructions for its use, and the more complicated the thing, the more time is spent studying it. When people get married, it is only a few are beginning to explore the psychology of the family, as there was a problem. Dale Carnegie, the famous American educator, son of a farmer, giving universal tips on how not to make family life a torture.
The main thing that you should know, marrying - your partner. What he loves, and what is not, what was bothering him, and that is its weak point. Ignorance of these basic things is dangerous.
You got married, so live here and now, do not let the new life the ghosts of a past love. Do not worry about what you do not, appreciate what you have. Do not get upset over nothing, life is too short. Forget about them. Learn to see the positive side of each event.
Do not over
In no case do not try to alter the partner, the temptation to do so is very common, especially in women. Does not seek to alter the partner, be themselves the right partner, because the king will be there only with the Queen.
Avoid hostility and conflict. Do not impose your opinion. Try to look at the situation from the perspective of another person. Try to love, the desire of happiness to another were not just desire. Be careful and grateful to their loved ones.
Ask questions instead of giving orders. In the family, nobody likes to orders. Do not criticize constructively and take the criticism. Do not forget the praise! Praise for each person, even the most modest success, and "be with the sincere in their recognition and generous in his praise." Be friendly. Remember that your spouse (s) has the right to personal property. Do not let the wind on the family budget. Strive as much as possible "to perform due».
Learn to listen to
Suspiciousness destroys love. Make a list of things that you care about, a list of actions you can take, decide and act. Provide each other with signs of attention and Learn to listen. All we have is the result of our thoughts. They are, we are programming yourself. Think positive - life will improve.
Dale Carnegie family
In the struggle of men and women lose two, fight vanity is not the best form of relationship between spouses. Do not be conceited! Family and work have to get along together.
Often, excess of free time leads to problems. Down with the free time - read the book! From the experiences of all the nerve disease, in crisis situations, stop worrying, take a look at the facts and actions. Job and profession - the best medicine experiences.
Fight with your own shortcomings, and modify them if you do not turn all the power of the pros and cons to be courageous! Learn to love yourself so / so what you created Nature. Avoid fatigue, relax, and will look good.
The road to marital happiness is thorny, but the road by walking.