Wedding in Mangistau (Kazakhstan)

That's how we have tested Adaytsev wedding! Yes tradition we honor! )
(For comparison - How are the wedding at the Crimean Tatars)

Wedding traditions adaytsev have their own characteristics. In ceremonies artfully intertwined Sufism Tengriism Islam. And the people in Mangistau same. They have learned to live in the harsh climatic conditions, calling on the spirits of the ancestors, worshiping and honoring the sacred foundations of Islam.

Meet our heroine Aigul - mother of three sons, a professional dancer, a geologist by profession. With her future husband met by chance. Although they lived for many years in the neighboring houses.

Today's young people can marry for love. Simply declare parents about their intentions, and then will twist wedding millstones. Although the Mangistau still there are cases when a guy and girl can marry parents, by agreement between the families. But, according to local, it is mostly found in wealthy families, in order to avoid capital flight.





In any case, the wedding begins with kudalyka - matchmaking. Mangistau feature is that here in the first meeting future relatives involved only the heads of families. The groom's father and closest relatives male come acquainted with the bride's father and other men kind. They meet, talk, looking at each other. Then simply agree on the next meeting, which involves only women who are and decide on when the wedding will take place.



Bride in Kazakh national costume



Mother of the groom, together with their closest relatives of the bride wear earrings. Now the girl is considered zasvatannoy. At the same meeting relatives of the groom gives Kalyn small, so-called dowry for the bride. Give him or cattle or money. The amount depends on the consistency of the groom.



Redemption is of several types. Kalyn itself is small - a large sum of money or cattle. Aky day - a ransom for the mother's milk. Oli-Tiris or Sadaqah - a ransom in memory of the ancestors, it does not leave itself, and distribute. Small one - a ransom payment for cattle or for toy. Costs are coming a lot. While in other regions of Kazakhstan began to pass these traditions, or replace them with less expensive, in the Mangistau from customs are not retreating, and give everything to the penny or the last cow.



VSAT toy - a feast for the relatives of the bride. Here comes the groom himself, just as his friend and brother. Maximum of 3-4 people. First introduced to the relatives of the groom bride. Then she led two nearest relatives. Next comes the usual holiday toast, dancing and congratulations. After VSAT toy bride is still in her father's house. According to legends, the girl can not take away from the house at night, only during the day. At sunrise the bride is taken to a new home. It accompanies all relatives, neighbors. Each gives a farewell speech and certainly adds: "Do not look back." This is such a sign - to the bride again returned to his father's house.



Zheng - wife elder brothers of the groom - the bride is taken by the arm and led away. Out of the house with his fiancee leaves shymyldykom and red scarf. Shymyldyk - a curtain embroidered with national patterns. The red color represents the innocence of the bride. Shymyldyk specifically for the bride mother sews. The bride's face to betashara - official presentation ceremony the bride - no one should see. Therefore, out of the car bride gets in a scarf covering the face. Woman withdrawn her cousin, closing from prying red shymyldykom.



On the way to the house of the bride meet the next of kin of the groom. In the hands of these same shymyldyk, but white. They are removed from the bride's red shawl and put on white - a symbol of Kelin, sister. Cousin of the bride depart, and relatives of the groom intrudes on his post. The bride comes to groom's home, hidden from prying eyes white curtain.



Then begins the ritual betashar - bride closed face. She put on the skin. Today it is prepared in advance, it is convenient to stand on. And in the old days under the feet of the bride throwing fresh animal skin - it had to be slippery. In one version, thus kelin tested for resistance. After all, she had to not only stay on the slippery skin, but to give Salem - bow at the mention of the name of each of the family members. According to another version, this skin symbolizes the nature of the Kazakh kelin - soft and gentle.



To the white shawl bride tied a few scarves of different colors in a certain order. First, tie a scarf in red - a symbol of the bride, then white - the symbol of the bride, Kelin. After - green to blossomed as the nature of the spring. Each node between handkerchiefs - decoration: a bracelet or ring.



End handkerchief tied to a special stick - Saba. It should be straight and free from knots, and brightly decorated like a tree during the spring bloom. Saban holds the boy. Betashar ceremony held in much the same way as in other parts of Kazakhstan. The bride gives Salem each family member whose name is mentioned in a long ceremonial song. At the end of betashara when the bride's face opened and see it all home, handkerchiefs untie and decoration takes the boy, holding a stick. Ring he gives his mother.



This is followed by the oldest customs - the blessing of fire. Preparing for it in advance and dried fat from the inside of the ram. On the tray bred a small fire in his throwing pieces of fat. When the smoke coming from the fire and odor, the bride touches the smoke and holds his hands over his face and other parts of the body. This tradition also has ancient roots. In Tengrianism worshiped fire, he asked for a blessing. But now this ancient custom supplemented by Islamic prayers. And the ceremony is held and read sura of the Koran older women kind.



The bride over the threshold with the right foot. She was escorted into a room for honeymooners. Shymyldyk hang in the room as a partition. In other words, not only young shuts the door, but a curtain. This tradition has ancient roots, when young lived in a yurt with his parents, and the only thing that is fenced off from their common life - shymyldyk. What is interesting, shymyldyk can hang for a long time. In Aigul hung before the birth of the first child, that is 9 months.



Then the bride pours his first tea - kelin Shay. This kind of test is a young kelin. Firstly, this tea is preparing a special blanket - kurak corp. His pieces of fabric sews mother of the groom. And there is a sense desire. Korpi can doshivat further When sewing him other pieces of tissue, thus wanting to continue the race. But the corp can not sit anyone except the bride.

The bride sits on kurak corp. Adult women are asked to pour tea. Someone stronger, someone thinner. She is given instructions say wishes. The bride should all farewell silently.



Only after that the bride can get ready for the main she. At the wedding, the bride's parents will not. It also echoes the ancient history of the Kazakhs, when the bride and groom were from different clans and lived far away from each other. Previously, the bride, who is leaving to the village of the groom, accompanied by several close relatives, but not the parents.



Now everything is much simpler. Once the bride is brought to the groom's house, it immediately refineries shymyldyk and give time to prepare for she. In many families, married couples today are allowed to go on a photo shoot. And only at the toe is held betashar. The next day after the wedding, the groom's closest relatives come to kelin Shay.



Even modern indulgences do not erase all the nuances and subtleties in the preparation and conduct ceremonies. In Mangistau strict adherence to the beliefs of their ancestors, national traditions helps to remember about the origins and characteristics of this region.

Photos from the family archive heroine

Proof

I'm all) Break)))

PySy: My wife is from Northern Kazakhstan, for her of course it was crazy, but the rules on the right) is already 10 years as a happily married) I myself am a native of Mangistau, adaets)))