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Golden rules of communication that should be remembered every
1. Do not hoard resentment - it's worth it. You must learn to forgive. It does not need another, and, first of all, you. Not necessarily at the same time continue to communicate with the offender.
2. No offense to children that they do not understand you. To understand, you have to go the same way of life. Between you big time distance. So it was and will be. The problem of fathers and children - the eternal problem.
3. Doing good, do not expect good. Do not expect that others should love you and respect. Learn to enjoy what you give to others and do good when there is a call of the soul, and not when you are forced to.
"Blessed is he who expects nothing, for he will never be disappointed" (A. Pop).
4. Do not criticize!
"Criticism is useless because it causes a person to defend themselves and, as a rule - to seek to justify themselves. Criticism is dangerous because it is a blow to his pride, hurt the feelings of self-importance and causes resentment "(D. Carnegie).
5. Do not argue. Still will not prove anything to anyone. Each is in his way. The other can not understand you, because you have different experiences.
"There is only one way to gain the upper hand in the dispute - is to evade it" (D. Carnegie).
6. Do not impose your past to others, if you do not ask about it. Any action imposed, even love - this aggression.
7. Evaluating the behavior of another person, try to take into account the situation and circumstances. Our positive image of the "I" is largely due to the fact that we can forgive myself for inappropriate behavior, citing the unfavorable situation and circumstances, but do not forgive others, building a comprehensive picture of it based on the situation and circumstances.
8. Do not ask and do not expect other similarity with you. There are different "types" of people, characterized by different levels of consciousness and self-awareness. These species differences between human beings are the same as between different kinds of animals (ant, elephant, monkey, etc.). But even among people of the same species there are individual differences. Therefore it is not surprising difference thoughts, actions, motives and values.