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A woman can not live without love. So she arranged. To love and to give love - is the mission with which it comes into this life. And therefore, how clean her soul depends on the purity of love, to which she is so eager, and that, ultimately, it receives. But what happens when love, stormy and passionate, but with pre-specified terms to "the absence of a happy future" in the final?





Women tend to fantasize. And coming up. Especially with regard to her great and happy future. And it can do it skillfully and without special preparation of the imagination. How? Yes, very simple ... It may not yet know the size of his feet, but to think of Ikea joint visit on Sundays. It may not yet be aware of his taste preferences, but to make a detailed menu of his breakfast on the next six months. It can not yet guess at his real family situation, and in my head already draw a perfect scenario of the ceremony, to refresh your memory from childhood selected model wedding dress.



But what with all this versatile women's imagination, which is an integral part of it, when he says that ... Married ?! Yes, the stigma of "scum" has come to be very helpful, but ... and if it does so at the very beginning of the relationship, acting honestly and openly? Thus, a priori, dooming it to failure subconscious imagination ... And what about the female entity when her heart has aimed an arrow and Cupid waiting just her unconscious, "a visual signal" ?!

"There are two ways to slide easily through life: to doubt everything or to believe unconditionally throughout ..." - once said Henri Poincare. "And there is no third!" - Said one of the modern. And here perhaps because one of two things: either say yes or say no! And no middle ground ... Everything is clear and simple, if you strongly ...

... Say NO!

This is the first reaction ... inherent in the female nature riot warmed to pride and seasoned mind. "Why should I care ?! I know ... there is too much time Life ?! The chances of divorce are negligible, youth and beauty fleeting, superfluous injury heart ... so painful, actually, WHY ?! ". Hmm, it really is easy and logical to madness! Indeed, in this case, the ball is ruled by reason, and reason is known to be the prerogative of men ... But on the other hand, female ... the choice is directly related to the degree of its self-love, their level of importance and self-respect as well as respect for their priorities in life . After all, a true woman is unlikely to suit weekends and holidays alone. True woman will not be satisfied with gifts, offsetting his absence. And even more promises, it blends in "breakfast" ... but from a very different menu than the fact that it is carefully thought out in their rare moments of morning awakening.

If the love of self is not the basis of its existence, then this decision can play a leading role ... fear. The fear that one day she recognizes herself in faith and a sincere intention on the mutual relationship with Him. Is there then a possibility that he would go to a meeting and change your life ...? There are ... but translating all this into reality, in addition to the mutual desire, also depends on the purity of her soul. After all, in the incarnation of all this life, becoming the most ostensibly happy, it is likely to make an accident at least one person ... And someone else's misfortune, as you know ...

If the likelihood that he will dare to change something, small ...? A feeling teplyaschiesya in her heart, already in full make themselves felt. After all, with the knowledge of his real family situation, he thus shifted the responsibility for the possible or impossible continuation of these relations at her! It is important to understand for what would then agreed, and suddenly for itself bogged down in a quagmire of sticky and viscous called "dependence" does not begin to blame him. One who is perfect at anything. Someone who was just honest with her. Someone who wanted to burn, but respect for her and her feelings, in spite of all the natural instincts leave the choice of Ney.



But there is another way ... more reckless, and because women, because it comes straight from the heart and provides it with an opportunity to see what it gives her a really ... in addition to the beautiful courtship and sincere attention, warmth, affection, and this man's concerns. And even apart from the feeling of what it becomes in his presence ... And, if you listen to him, to his heart, and perhaps she will think about what would ...

... To say YES?

And start it ... knowing that these relationships - a truly priceless gift for the woman. For any woman that promotes its domestic growth. And the beauty of them is that only in such a seemingly deliberately "doomed" conditions gives her a chance to learn how to love .... And to love unconditionally ... And this is the highest award for achieving harmony in your soul. After all, "of course" it means without any expectations and conditions: No conditions to achieve the goal of a happy future together; without conditions on an equivalent compensation in the form of absolutely relevant here, financial support; without conditions on the possibility of a likelihood of "What if he ever divorce ?!", as well as without the condition to overcome a dozen of the same conditions ...

Only love ... To love and to be in this. To love and to give it. To love and accept it. Love and enjoy it, not wanting anything more. Just love, realizing their main purpose in life. To love and be easy to continue. To be a woman. Rave? Not at all ... just love. To love and to live today. Here and now. Whatever it lasted ... Well, as "the highest aerobatics", to be able to get away safely when the time comes.




This is not a guide to the operation, not a call to action and a reminder on the use of ... It's only two ways located in absolute parallels from each other, the choice of which depends on its internal sensations: to send him to hell and again plunge into standby significant prospects Future or finally stop "keep abreast" in their idealizations and start to live simply? Happy outcome of the second case is possible only when the mind is so deep that her love is truly unconditional, in the first - if the decision remains faithful to the end will ... Otherwise, as in the well-known song ...

I closed the door itself,
I'm happy with him ...
Why is it so bad?
Why is it so painful ...

And the third is ... not given ...