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7 Jealousy Tactics: How to Recognize Manipulation and Maintain Relationships
Mind games: 7 strategies to provoke jealousy and what is behind them
Jealousy is an ancient survival mechanism that has become an instrument of influence. According to a study by the American Psychological Association, 68% of people at least once consciously cause jealousy in a partner. But when does emotional rain become a toxic downpour?
Tactics and their ulterior motives
1. "Accidental" references to former
Mechanics: Playing Comparison Through Stories About Past Relationships
Psychology: Testing Your Attachment Theory Response by Bowlby
Experiment:
Try the “Emotional Mirror” technique: calmly repeat its phrase, replacing “former” with “former”. Watch the reaction.
2. Social trigger: flirting in front of the eyes
Mechanics: Demonstrative communication with other men
Antidote: The Three Questions Method:
1. Is it a repetitive pattern?
2. What were my actions before that?
3. What does she want in the end?
Response strategies
Iceberg technique
Step 1: Identify the visible part (its actions)
Step 2: Analyze the hidden 90% (her fears, childhood traumas)
Step 3: Use the formula “Sense → Need” (example: “Are you jealous → Do you need confirmation of my feelings?”)
48-hour rule
Important: Do not react immediately to provocation.
Action:
1. Record your emotions in your diary
2. Play the dialogue from the perspective of the observer
3. Choose a time to discuss
Glossary
Triangulation
Engaging a third party to create a competitive environment
gaslighting
Manipulative technique to make you question the adequacy of perception
