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What to do if you cannot fall in love. LITROMANTICS
Have you ever wondered why some people They never have strong romantic feelings.? Maybe you're one of them. This phenomenon is called litromantics, a condition in which a person has a theoretical interest in love, but can not feel in love.
1. What are litromantics?
Lithromantics are people who may experience romantic attraction on an intellectual level, but not on an emotional level. As soon as romantic feelings become mutual, interest in them disappears.
- Difference from aromanticsLithromantics theoretically perceive love, but cannot feel it.
- Lack of desire for reciprocitySometimes attention from a partner makes them anxious.
- The craving for platonic connectionsFriendship is more important than romantic relationships.
Lithromantics can be caused by many factors, both psychological and biological:
- Traumatic experiencePast failed relationships or fear of rejection.
- AlexithymiaDifficulty in understanding and expressing emotions.
- High autonomyThe need for personal space is stronger than the desire for intimacy.
- Hormonal imbalanceLow levels of dopamine and oxytocin can reduce the ability to fall in love.
If you want to change your perception of love, try the following methods:
- Emotional workKeep a feeling diary to learn to recognize your emotions.
- PsychotherapyCognitive behavioral therapy can help break down barriers.
- ExperimentsGive yourself a chance to be in romantic situations without pressure.
- Developing attachmentCommunicate with people you trust.
It is important to understand: litromantics is not a disadvantage, but a feature. Not everyone needs romantic feelings for a full life.
If litromantics does not interfere with your comfort, accepting yourself as you are is the best choice.
Conclusion
Lithromantics is not a disease or a problem, but a form of perception of love. The main thing is to become aware of your feelings and understand that your experience of love does not necessarily have to meet accepted standards.
Glossary
- Lithromantics Inability to experience romantic feelings despite a theoretical interest in love
- Alexithymia A condition in which a person has difficulty expressing emotions.
- Platonic attachment An emotional connection without romantic overtones.
- dopamine The hormone responsible for pleasure and motivation.
