If you are not sure that this is love

Is it love? Or just affection?

Almost all of us have friends who jump from relationship to relationship, and each time they assert that "absolutely and unconditionally love».

For those of us who have no relationship lasted for a period longer than the duration of a few of their relationship together - it is not clear how someone could "love" so many people at once.

I mean, let's be honest. This is not love. It is the fear of loneliness. So after all?
Yes and no. The whole point is that we feel.

But what if the feelings are deceiving us? Suddenly we just fucking scared of loneliness, so anyone who gives us the slightest sense of security and comfort, just coming for your soul mate?

Do you know the insight that after a few months after the break-up, it is hard to believe that you even said the three magic words to whom today you do not want to even just stay close?

It is impossible to grasp how I could love someone so ridiculous? Someone is so wrong? So the surface?

Well, just that it was not love. It was affection.

I do not know for sure, your true love or a relationship for the sake of the relationship, but I can show you some common indicators. These are nuances that can be specified, when it seems that he or she is too tied to a person from the category of "One night».

Because you certainly do not want to attend the wedding, which one of the newlyweds as the cause of the event said, would be "simply he / she is always there." And if you doubt the motives of self-love, the same nurse on these six points to determine whether the cost of the time invested by your efforts.

Love - it is a passion; affection - indifference

Here it is about behavior at parting. They say that is closest to the feeling of love - hatred, which is why after the break, all that is beautiful, true love turns into a furious and passionate, unconscious hatred.

When you are simply attached to the person, so you will never be angry. You will be overcome anxiety or irritation, but these anxious feelings will not lead you to something so strong and meaningful as real hatred.

Love is unconditional; attachment - self-centered

When you love - all your thoughts are devoted to this man. For the first time in the life of someone's needs are beyond your.

The only reason you buy a new bed - it's because you now have with whom to share it. All you do for your partner, and little is directed at your satisfaction.

Love is complicated; attachment - just difficult when you're not together

In this love all easy. Do you think it should be easy, because love is so pure and beautiful, but still a significant and changing life requires effort. You must contribute to the growth and strengthening of relations.

With regard to the attachment, then there is nothing to cultivate. All the attention is focused only on how often you can see during the week.

You need this person as well as the need for assistance. These relationships do not grow, do not bloom and do not take other forms. As in the case of drugs, "coming" is short, and sooner or later you "let go».

Love - is freedom; affection - Prison

When you love, you do not need to keep the person in sight, to feel safe. You do not need to be with someone to understand what he feels. You never doubt in the response of love that man and become suffer from jealousy.

When you are attached, you do not understand the feelings of the partner because you are able to be normal only in his immediate presence. When you are not together, you can not get rid of the obsessive thoughts, how and with whom he / she can spend time.

If that person is just too attached to you, does it not mean that he was by and large do not care who to bind?

Love expands the boundaries; affection - driving into the frame

Nothing in this life can inspire such a sense of its own omnipotence, like true love. It gives a whole new understanding of freedom, refreshes and energizes. You are alive - and are ready to conquer the world.

Attachment turns into a banal struggle for power. You constantly need to confirm their importance. You all should be under control and a kind of "the keys to the handcuffs" is always in your hands.

Love is eternal; attachment - the time

When you love - really love - is for the ages. Will develop a relationship or not, this man will always be the love of your life.

With the attachment is not going to work. The attachment has a shelf life, and separation is only a matter of time. Affection - a fake, it is like staying in oblivion compared with sincere love.

Someday one of the partners in such a pair can meet your true love and all this affection will dissipate as quickly as it was formed sometime.

True love can not be weakened, it remains with us forever.



Author: Lauren Martin
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