After five years of marriage, my wife and I decided to buy an apartment, but it seemed that everything was against us.

The law of meannessMurphy's Law is a kind of rule, a frivolous principle that if you fail at some point, she will. At the most inopportune time for this. Looking back in time and looking at your life through the prism of this humorous “law,” anyone can begin to suspect something is wrong. It’s as if Murphy’s Law is completely unironic. But that, of course, would be a mistake.



Of course, sometimes life develops in such a way that it is difficult to believe that the whole string of events could have happened to you by chance. And after reading the biographies of famous people, you begin to think that someone controls our decisions and lives, like a puppeteer. But that is far from the case. In most cases, we are the creators of our destiny. In one way or another, of course. After all, luck and banal bad luck have not yet been canceled.

I will say at once, I do not believe in any curses, miracles, house or any other chupacabra. For me, we live in a very boring material reality where nothing interesting is happening. Except that emotions and all sorts of technical innovations - that gives us at least some motivation to move on. Otherwise, there would be no progress at all. Well, that's my position and you don't have to support it. Except that my wife and I have a history of buying a home that still surprises me. I'll share it with you today. Believe it or not is everyone’s right. It's my job to tell.



So, after 5 years together, my wife and I are finally ready to buy a one-bedroom apartment. We did a lot of work at the time and had a lot of energy. But the monthly rent killed the whole mood and incentive to develop. Why, if the owners of the apartment come and take what they owe? And if you look at how much we gave them in a year, it's crazy. Take your pills. It is good that before the wedding my wife and I had my own small capital, so we had to live, moving from one rented apartment to another, relatively short.

The area was already selected, the apartment, of course, one-room Khrushchev. But that was something. In addition, during our married life, I personally learned to cramp. My wife, I think, too. Yours, not someone else's. Do what you want, even though you fight with your neighbors all day. You have that right. Do you know how many problems we had in the past with the people with whom we rented a house? You would understand. Come on, it's all lyrics. Most importantly, we have not been able to buy an apartment.



Why? My mother-in-law, Vera Romanovna, became very ill. And as much as I wanted to appear to be a worse person than I really am, my conscience could not stand it. I couldn't let my wife think I was an asshole. We made money and helped the mother get back on her feet. Hospitals are not cheap nowadays, although we all know that. That's interesting. My wife's sister, who was constantly criticizing me, did not want to make a fold with us. Just a couple of times came to my mother with some products, and then continued to live his life as before.

I don't want to say anything, but you probably also have a distant relative who can only scratch his tongue. Well, this is exactly the same case. Even the wife knows what her sister is sometimes two-faced. However, it is her choice. I'm not superstitious, but I do believe that there is some kind of karma or boomerang in life. It works on the principle of relationships between people, not by magic. Well, people used to think that thunder and lightning were evil sorcery, right? Maybe karma did the same thing.



I'll continue. We almost bought an apartment with our wife a couple of years after the first incident. But, again, bummer. The money was collected again, even a larger amount. However, it was an accident that my family had when I was driving. Don't worry, it ended well. My wife's not scratched, I broke two ribs, and that's only because I didn't buy a proper seat belt fastener. But the car, of course, suffered so well.

In our family, there is no car. Therefore, it was urgent to choose, repair or buy a new car. Of course, the wife offered a repair. It is cheaper, and even faster in time. And we would do a little more work, fix everything we can and continue to deal with the housing issue. I even thought of doing it myself so as not to complicate my life. Looking at the truth, I decided to sell it. It was better to buy something simpler, but not to waste time, which we have already missed enough.



You know, the funniest thing was when my mother-in-law and her other daughter, not my wife, attacked me with double force. My wife's sister blamed me for not being able to drive, even though I was a man who had to be born. And I almost killed her sister. She doesn’t like how she ever married me. Mother-in-law sawed a little smaller, apparently, did not have time to completely forget that the money for her treatment went, including from my pocket. The only person who didn’t blame me was my wife. And I was very grateful to her for that. And relatives, this is the tenth case.

After a while, the apartment was purchased by us. I can tell you more, we managed to buy a two-bedroom apartment. The thing is, I finally got promoted. A man who sold his former apartment had some bad debts. Therefore, the case did not tolerate any delay. Yes, someone may say that living in a living space bought on the secondary market is not the same. And he might even be right. I agree that living in your own villa, which you designed and built by real specialists in your field, is cooler. But let’s be honest with everyone according to their abilities.



Yeah, speaking of opportunities. My wife’s sister recently got married. And her problems began exactly the same as we did. A rented apartment no longer warms the soul, you need to look for something of your own. But her approach to this problem was completely unexpected to me. After the wedding, she quit her job a few weeks later. And she declared herself a married woman, and, therefore, the one for whom the husband must now decide. The spouse must decide their housing issue, leisure and everything else. This is it.

So I started thinking. My wife and I couldn’t buy an apartment for a long time. It was as if some kind of law of meanness was working, by God. But, in the end, we passed more than one life test, lived together so much time, even wandering around rented apartments, and still stayed together. In fact, our relationship has only grown stronger. And what awaits my wife’s sister, and even with such an attitude towards people and life in general? Who knows, but I don’t expect anything good. There must be karma after all. To some extent, of course. Otherwise, how do you explain it?