Children are obliged to support their parents, with 25 you can safely start giving money

Do children have to support their parents? For many, this is a thing of the past. However, there are those who consider this the norm, the moral duty of adult offspring. Tamara Vasilievna and Yegor Grigoryevich are among these people. What their daughter thinks, read today’s story.



I grew up in a family that all my childhood prepared me for making money. My mother told me why it is necessary and why it is so important to study well in order to have a good job in the future: “You will grow up and help your mother and father.” Who else if not you? How good Grandma is, see? Your dad and I did our best!

My mother really helped my grandmother. Not only did she give her regular money and pay for utilities, but she also came over the weekend to do the general cleaning. Sometimes Ma took me with her to teach me everything.



I was only 5 years old at the time, and my mom was almost approaching her 30th birthday. I remember this holiday very well. We sat with the whole family at a lavish table and our parents talked about money all the time. They seemed obsessed with it.

“If you invest in children, old age will be comfortable,” said my mother. And the father said, "Children have a duty to support their parents." I was a little girl and didn’t understand everything. But even then, I felt like responsibility lay on my fragile little shoulders. I thought my parents wouldn’t love me if I didn’t help them. Of course, at that age, help was in the little things. However, this feeling like a snowball grew over the years.

After school, which I graduated with a gold medal, I entered the budget in a prestigious university. I had to start working during training. My parents said it would help me adapt to the realities of adulthood.

I don’t know how I was able to combine everything. But in the end, I received a red diploma and an offer from the employer immediately after graduation. Being on a good account - my mother said that this is the most important thing in life. Do not lean out again, but also strive for more.



Step by step I grew and moved up the career ladder. In just a couple of years I managed to achieve great heights. And when I turned 25, my mother called and after the usual congratulations said that now I have to help them financially.

My inner 5-year-old has gone off. Here comes my finest hour. I even liked it at first. I felt that all these years went to their goals for good. Now I'm really useful. But as the years passed, my parents' appetites grew.



My parents thought I had to pay for their food and food. I knew I was starting to spend more on myself. Because of this, it was almost impossible to save money. I've been dreaming about my apartment for a long time because I lived in a rented apartment.

Once upon a time my parents and I had a fight. My mom made a scandal when I told her I couldn’t give her that much money every month. Even though my mother was still working. She was only 53 years old at the time. But she still provided for her mother. I guess I didn’t have enough money for myself. Although I didn't understand how it was possible, because before without my money, she and her father could cope normally.



My mother called me heartless and ungrateful. She gave me life, and I am not ready to do anything in return. But that's not true! For so many years, I have been grateful to my parents. You can always rely on me. But that doesn't seem to be enough for Mom.

One day she hinted that in her old age I would have to take care of her. I was already so pissed off by these conversations that I said I'd hire a nurse, that's all. It hurt my mom a lot. So much so that we didn't talk for a month until she got a utility bill and sent it to me.



When I talk to someone about my relationship with my parents, everyone turns their finger to their temple. "It's not normal, don't you think you're going to talk to a psychologist about it?" a friend of mine once said. I've been thinking about it more and more lately. Who has had this experience, how did you manage?

Life Wisdom: What does this story teach us? The help of a qualified specialist girl really needs. Dealing with the problems of your present, which began to arise in childhood, is always difficult. Unfortunately, the heroine’s parents created a false idea in her head about what a family relationship should be. It doesn't even smell normal here!

Tell me, what advice would you give a girl?