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There is no need to worry about family life.
One day we received a letter in which a woman shared her story and asked for advice. Her situation turned out to be too familiar and vital, in which many women recognize themselves. That's why we couldn't get past.
Editorial "Site" He shows you the story of the reader and tells you How to establish a relationship with your husband.
My name is Inna, I am 43, my husband is 50, and we have been married for almost 20 years. Raising two daughters, 12 and 10 years old. In recent years, our relations have been reduced to the discussion of current affairs: schooling for girls, buying new things and paying for communal housing. When I try to raise questions about family, he strikes up a conversation about world issues that I don't care much about.
Trying to talk about us, he's quiet. He starts talking about things that don’t exist that I’m not interested in. We haven't been close to him for seven years. You can't talk about that either.
I work, I take care of myself, I take care of him, I take care of my children, I do community work. My husband also works and sometimes helps around the house. There is no opportunity to rest together, and I do not see the enthusiasm for this idea from his side. He's not trying to improve our relationship at all, I'm not sure if he needs to.
I respect him very much, help him in business as much as I can. I don’t want to leave, but I don’t know how to live either. Is the situation hopeless? What do you do with that?
Indeed, a simple situation can not be called. It's a case where things don't look so bad at first, but if you dig deeper, you realize that it's just an appearance. This situation must be viewed dynamically. You need to understand how everything was in the beginning, when the discord occurred and what your feelings are.
To find out all the reasons for what is happening, you need to answer many questions. Every marriage is special, so you need to look for individual reasons. However, in all such situations, there is something in common: everything that happens is the result of 20 years of living together. At some stage of building a marriage, you failed to listen to your desires and defend your interests.
If living in a family is sad, you need to find the reasons for this. It all starts with individual work. First, you need to understand what you want from marriage, what your wishes are not taken into account, what you would like to change. You can try to remember when things didn’t go the way you wanted them to.
It is also important to analyze conflicts and how to resolve them. If you approach the matter thoroughly, you can save the marriage and fix it. relationship. The main thing is your desire and desire. You may not want to leave your husband now, but you can not endlessly create this appearance of family.
And, of course, without a sincere conversation can not do. Anyway, you need to figure out what's on your husband's mind. Try to understand a man, maintain a conversation on the topic that interests him. Maybe you can talk about something important.
If the husband does not make contact, you can try to visit therapy. A family psychologist will help you understand everything. You can see better what is going on in your family. There are moments you probably don’t consider. No need to wait for a miracle, nothing will happen by itself. Try to do something, at least understand yourself.
Have you experienced such situations in your life? How did you get out of them?
Editorial "Site" He shows you the story of the reader and tells you How to establish a relationship with your husband.
My name is Inna, I am 43, my husband is 50, and we have been married for almost 20 years. Raising two daughters, 12 and 10 years old. In recent years, our relations have been reduced to the discussion of current affairs: schooling for girls, buying new things and paying for communal housing. When I try to raise questions about family, he strikes up a conversation about world issues that I don't care much about.
Trying to talk about us, he's quiet. He starts talking about things that don’t exist that I’m not interested in. We haven't been close to him for seven years. You can't talk about that either.
I work, I take care of myself, I take care of him, I take care of my children, I do community work. My husband also works and sometimes helps around the house. There is no opportunity to rest together, and I do not see the enthusiasm for this idea from his side. He's not trying to improve our relationship at all, I'm not sure if he needs to.
I respect him very much, help him in business as much as I can. I don’t want to leave, but I don’t know how to live either. Is the situation hopeless? What do you do with that?
Indeed, a simple situation can not be called. It's a case where things don't look so bad at first, but if you dig deeper, you realize that it's just an appearance. This situation must be viewed dynamically. You need to understand how everything was in the beginning, when the discord occurred and what your feelings are.
To find out all the reasons for what is happening, you need to answer many questions. Every marriage is special, so you need to look for individual reasons. However, in all such situations, there is something in common: everything that happens is the result of 20 years of living together. At some stage of building a marriage, you failed to listen to your desires and defend your interests.
If living in a family is sad, you need to find the reasons for this. It all starts with individual work. First, you need to understand what you want from marriage, what your wishes are not taken into account, what you would like to change. You can try to remember when things didn’t go the way you wanted them to.
It is also important to analyze conflicts and how to resolve them. If you approach the matter thoroughly, you can save the marriage and fix it. relationship. The main thing is your desire and desire. You may not want to leave your husband now, but you can not endlessly create this appearance of family.
And, of course, without a sincere conversation can not do. Anyway, you need to figure out what's on your husband's mind. Try to understand a man, maintain a conversation on the topic that interests him. Maybe you can talk about something important.
If the husband does not make contact, you can try to visit therapy. A family psychologist will help you understand everything. You can see better what is going on in your family. There are moments you probably don’t consider. No need to wait for a miracle, nothing will happen by itself. Try to do something, at least understand yourself.
Have you experienced such situations in your life? How did you get out of them?
