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How to Talk to People Who Don't Love You: Ancient Jewish Wisdom
Communication between people is not always pleasant and joyful. According to observations, every person sooner or later encounters an unfriendly attitude in his life. We definitely feel disliked and sometimes even disliked, seemingly for no apparent reason. Employees, relatives of the wife or neighbor from the apartment on the left.
One category of people automatically gets angry in response. That's how the human psyche works. You have to live in a “everyone hates everyone.”
Others in such a situation subconsciously try to show their best side, please and try to please. But it's unlikely to work. Quite the opposite. Flattery is repulsive and humiliating.
Don’t seem better than you are, but why waste your precious powers? Who knows why they don’t eat you... Maybe someone's picking up tints in your voice. Or your nose is too long. Or that dreadful yellow jacket? But it has nothing to do with you! And do not immediately change the jacket to green. Everyone has a limited amount of time and energy. So why waste them? To deal with this, here is a guide to action from the chosen people.
“Where you are loved, go seldom, where you are hated never.” Two wisdoms in one Jewish proverb. Never means cutting off contact or distancing yourself if possible. The less information our enemies have, the less they have. leverage on you. They don't like it, they don't like it. So, you see, in time you will be forgotten and the unpleasant attitude will disappear. You live somewhere happy and happy.
Peels is another thing when you are loved and you are a welcome guest. The situation is opposite and quite pleasant. But here too, the measure is important, because there is a risk of getting stuck. Too intrusive friends should think and distract themselves in time for something else. It's all around. so much! In a relationship where there is no air, all your virtues will gradually fade and cease to be valued. Feelings like butter stay fresh only in the cool.
Close and in 24/7 mode inevitably comes saturation and cooling. We don't need that at all. “There is no surer way to stir up passion in another than to keep the cold yourself.” – François de La Rochefoucauld But you also need to disappear from the radar wisely, do not overdo it with an ignorant. You will eventually be forgotten and love will disappear.
In my opinion, this is great advice from a Jewish grandfather. By observing it, people become calmer and more confident. People hate their own kind because they are wounded in the heart. Let’s build relationships with people who make us happier.
One category of people automatically gets angry in response. That's how the human psyche works. You have to live in a “everyone hates everyone.”
Others in such a situation subconsciously try to show their best side, please and try to please. But it's unlikely to work. Quite the opposite. Flattery is repulsive and humiliating.
Don’t seem better than you are, but why waste your precious powers? Who knows why they don’t eat you... Maybe someone's picking up tints in your voice. Or your nose is too long. Or that dreadful yellow jacket? But it has nothing to do with you! And do not immediately change the jacket to green. Everyone has a limited amount of time and energy. So why waste them? To deal with this, here is a guide to action from the chosen people.
“Where you are loved, go seldom, where you are hated never.” Two wisdoms in one Jewish proverb. Never means cutting off contact or distancing yourself if possible. The less information our enemies have, the less they have. leverage on you. They don't like it, they don't like it. So, you see, in time you will be forgotten and the unpleasant attitude will disappear. You live somewhere happy and happy.
Peels is another thing when you are loved and you are a welcome guest. The situation is opposite and quite pleasant. But here too, the measure is important, because there is a risk of getting stuck. Too intrusive friends should think and distract themselves in time for something else. It's all around. so much! In a relationship where there is no air, all your virtues will gradually fade and cease to be valued. Feelings like butter stay fresh only in the cool.
Close and in 24/7 mode inevitably comes saturation and cooling. We don't need that at all. “There is no surer way to stir up passion in another than to keep the cold yourself.” – François de La Rochefoucauld But you also need to disappear from the radar wisely, do not overdo it with an ignorant. You will eventually be forgotten and love will disappear.
In my opinion, this is great advice from a Jewish grandfather. By observing it, people become calmer and more confident. People hate their own kind because they are wounded in the heart. Let’s build relationships with people who make us happier.
