How to maintain a long-distance relationship if you had to break up during the war Bashny.Net

Even in the most difficult times, it is necessary to maintain contact with relatives. Especially when people are forced to leave indefinitely. Remoteness, negative thoughts and even fear adversely affect the general condition of a person. Support in long-distance relationships is very important. What should I do? Answers to these questions are provided by a psychologist.



First of all, it is worth emphasizing the importance of communicating with relatives and loved ones. And it is not only about transferring facts about your stay, life and health. It is also necessary to share thoughts and impressions. All this is necessary to preserve the very moment of intimacy in the relationship and not allow it to disappear under the pressure of circumstances.



This can be sentimental chatter, memories, or even a retelling of a random anecdote. Doesn't matter. Some may find this approach to communication unproductive. But that's not true. After all, the most important thing is not only the transfer of factual data, but also any compensation for live communication with face to face, touch and hugs.



In addition to the fact of communication, it is equally important to monitor how each conversation goes. It is not enough to just share experiences, cry or show sympathy. Yeah, it's not easy. But it is very undesirable to constantly keep on a negative note (and thereby keep the interlocutor on it).

Support in a relationship is not only in constant contact, but also in mutual praise. No matter what. The main thing is the praise and admiration. Every conversation at a distance should end on an encouraging note. In the future, each participant was happy to communicate again. Just keep a positive attitude throughout the day.



Experts believe that in relations with children it is necessary to adhere to certain rules that will help to preserve the emotional connection with the child as much as possible. The task of the parent is to give the child the full range of his emotions. Even if the child is not aware of everything that is happening, he also feels and needs to express his emotions. Therefore, if the child begins to be angry or cry, you do not need to take away this opportunity from him by parental prohibition.



Whatever the situation, the child needs attention. If possible, ask him how he spent the day. Of course, due to his age, he does not have the opportunity to express all his emotions. Therefore, you can resort to a small trick. Give your child a small task: write a story or a story. It is there that he will be able to unconsciously express his feelings from separation and from what is happening around him.

In addition to the standard words of love, you can create a certain picture of the life that will come after the reunion. For example, a parent and a child will go to an amusement park or play a game together, which the latter has long dreamed of. All this is very important, since these fantasies help the child to easily endure hardships and adversity.



Some believe that in a critical situation there is no place for sentimentality or tenderness. That's not really true. And even if it sounds not very serious, but it is tenderness that helps a person to remain strong in the face of life difficulties. Any specialist will agree with this. We hope that this advice will never be needed, otherwise it will be useful and help. Relationship support and love help loving people at any distance.