Due to the birth of the third child, my husband became cold to me, I want to understand him and improve the situation in the family.

The time after the birth of the child is very difficult. Sometimes this is a real test for both the wife and husband. The first is difficult, because from a physiological and mental point of view, the birth of a baby has serious consequences. The second is hard, because the wife is all about taking care of the baby. This is unusual and life becomes different for a while.

Recently on one of the forums I found an unusual post. In it, the woman said that after the birth of the third child Husband suddenly chilled towards her. His behavior changed dramatically, and now the poor woman does not know what to do. Until then, everything was fine, her husband adored her and her two daughters. But with the birth of his son, something changed.



There were many different assumptions in the comments. Someone was talking about stupid things like slander. However, most were inclined to believe that although the husband wanted a son, he was still not ready to take care of three children. The elders are more than 10 years old, which means that the man has long been weaned from a small child at home.

It is important to understand that Sometimes people do not know their true desires.. Sometimes things change during pregnancy, for example. The feeling that the husband really wanted to have a son, but after the fact he realized that it was more for a tick. In reality. Three children feel like a burden, no matter how much their parents love them..



Most often, a person’s behavior can change in this way in the case when many different circumstances suddenly fall on him, for which he was not ready. According to the woman, the husband is a military man, more than once left earlier on business trips, and now for several months sitting quietly at home.

Changing a habitual lifestyle on all fronts can cause serious mental problems. Perhaps the man himself now can not understand why his wife suddenly became a stranger to him. He had given gifts before and paid attention. A lot of things have fallen on the man now.It is worth considering that a couple of months ago, a war began, for which certainly none of us were ready. It could have affected, too.



Unfortunately, the reason for the sudden change in behavior may be something else. Let's look at the whole situation.

Husband and wife. They already have three children. The wife is busy with her young son and is looking after her two teenage daughters. My husband makes money for the whole family. In normal times, he often leaves for long trips. Upon arrival, he gives his wife attention and gifts. The situation in the world is changing and it is no longer possible to leave home. He suddenly becomes irritable and angry.



After reading this, I had a strong feeling that The husband cheated on his wife, hiding behind departures. As a result, he felt guilty and returned with gifts. Now the opportunity to go somewhere disappeared, and at home a small child is constantly. There is no longer an outlet in the form of other women, and the wife is suddenly no longer sweet.

Life Wisdom: What does this story teach us? I don't want to think badly of people. However, the above option looks very realistic. Many people don’t get everything they want in the family. Often they make compromises and agree, for example, to have several children. Deep down, they don't want them. But they are afraid to admit it. In order to somehow compensate for all this, the husbands go to the left, gaining there what they lost in the family.





The only way out in this situation is honesty. First of all, admit to myself that I did not want three children and was not ready for them. To confess that he wanted a beautiful wife who devotes time not only to children. To understand that he made a mistake, and to talk about everything with his wife honestly.





It is difficult to say why people start to deceive themselves and others. Maybe it's social pressure. A society that says having children in marriage is mandatory. People can't honestly tell each other they don't want children. Fear they'll fall out of love. But which is better: to live not as you really want, deceiving your loved one, or find someone who will share your views on family and the world?