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No matter what you dream about or what you aspire to, we are united by one goal – the desire to be happy. But there is always something that separates us from our dreams, and most often it is ourselves. Where the one is hidden key?





"Site" Sharing the thoughts of a well-known psychologist Mikhail Yefimovich LitvakHe speaks very correctly about human happiness and the ways to achieve it.

How to Become a Successful Person: Everyone is born to be happy. But how many people can say that he is really happy? Only a few of you will answer in the affirmative. So what does it take? Happiness consists in the general content of life consisting in three concepts: "I want," "I can," and "I have to.".

But most of the time, they don't match. If I want to, I can't do it. If I have to, I don't like it. How do you get your affairs in order? If you want to but cannot, try to learn. Any activity is good. We just need to start acting.

We have different desires. But it's also important to sort them. The desire to drink is unnatural. It leads to inhibition of personal development. Such conflicting desires should be avoided. Actions must lead to the development of the individual. The strategy of working on yourself is to learn as much as possible. A person primarily seeks to satisfy his desires.





When you choose a goal, first of all find out whether the road that you should follow leads to it. If this is not your way, you have to turn away from it. On the right path we are pushed by internal forces. It is known that the tree tends to grow up. If it fails, it starts to throw branches to the side. When an obstacle in his path disappears, it grows up again.

If you start thinking, decide, and if you decide, then act. The main thing is to act.Don't hesitate. Don’t be afraid of mistakes, failure is seven times more useful than success.

Trouble helps you realize your mistakes and behave correctly next time. Why seven times? In the brain, positive emotions account for 35% and negative emotions account for 5%. When a person feels bad, he begins to think. Failures keep us in good shape, there is no need to fear them, without them there is no development.





Don’t try to change other people’s circumstances, but change yourself and adjust to your circumstances. Circumstances try to change mentally immature personalities. Ideally necessary Change yourself and your vision situation. For example, I used to fear heights and avoid going to the mountains. They made me panic, anxiety.

Now the mountains beckon and excite me. What happened? Have the mountains changed? No, they're the same. I changed myself. Mentally mature and mentally immature people can be in the same place, but at the same time live in different worlds.





Signs of mental maturity

1. A mature personality acts.
2. A person, mentally immature, directs all his efforts to the device of his personal life. For a mature person, the acquisition of independence is more important than business. Personality of such a person arranges itself. In my practice, there were losers who complained about problems with finding the second half. I advised them to start earning more. And, indeed, after a while, their personal life improved, in other words, there were many more options for choosing the second half.
3. The needs of a mentally mature person depend on their success. The immature person copies them and increases their size.
4. Mature personality The immature wants someone else to do it for her.
5. Mentally immature people worry about how they look. A mature person doesn’t worry about it. But she always looks good.
6. The immature person seeks to occupy a high position. Such a person wants to have a lot, but does not engage in personal growth. To a mature person, the situation comes by itself. It is a product of personal growth.

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Many of my clients are struggling because they try to appear. You really have to be. There's an interesting experiment: tiptoe and count the time you stand. How long did you last? Hardly, because it's not your height. You can't stay in that position for a long time. But growth unlimited.

It is necessary to set only high goals, because there is only one way to the small, to the large - many. Of course, do not forget that the goals must be real. Remember, you started your life with a sperm, which then needed to take first place among millions of others. A small goal will lead to nothing, a big one will achieve something.

Can a perpetual motion machine be invented? No, and don't do that. As well as re-educating another person, you will never succeed, you can not try. Setting small goals is characteristic of neurotic natures.





A man needs one. please three peopleMe, your boss and your sexual partner. It should be borne in mind that with a wife (husband) you can break up and leave work. And you can't get away from yourself. First of all, you need to like yourself. Many people argue with this statement when they think about children. They're only in fourth place.

The children will leave, much sooner than they will physically. At the age of 12-14, they begin to despise their parents, not to understand them. At the age of 20, with proper upbringing, the child leaves the house and is completely separated. But a family, if built properly, can last much longer.

You can't just live for a child. He needs to be raised so that he can feed himself at 20 years old. And it is necessary to break not only with children, but also with parents. It is because our children do not listen to us. Otherwise, we would be living in a cave. Anything new is a protest.





I'd like to say a little bit about that. destiny. How do you get out of the life scenario? Initially, a person is programmed to grow, but viruses begin to act, and he makes circles. By fate, a person must move higher and higher.

Maslow said there would be no end to the complaints, but the level of the complaints could be judged. For example, a person complaining about the lack of a car is one thing, and if he wants a garage, it is a completely different level. To change fate, you have to leave the script. Change yourself and the script will change. The main thing is to have a good opinion of yourself.

We are all exceptions created in a single copy, so always the first. You don’t have to copy someone else, you have to make yourself. There is a saying that a soldier who does not dream of becoming a general is bad. Over the years, I've reinvented it. I came to the conclusion that one must dream of becoming a general to be a good soldier.

If you're not doing anything, how can you be helped? We have to get out of the swamp of our destiny. The main thing is that the dirt left on you after this does not germinate and does not drag on again.





Work for yourself.. Don't think about others. If you do this, you can see how much the quality of the activity will increase. After all, the result is considered the product of properly organized activity. For example, for a doctor, the main thing is to correctly prescribe treatment. Do not worry that the recommendations will not be implemented, this is not the case of a specialist. You need to stop focusing on others and focus on your work.

If you want to save yourself, don’t judge yourself the way your neighbor sees you. Even in the Middle Ages, the famous writer said: “I can make you talk about yourself well, but make you think well will not work.” So you don't have to turn to others. It is important to follow your path. You don't have to go for happiness.





Man. happiness-seeking It reminds me of an old woman who lost her glasses on her head. One common aphorism is that if you want to know where your enemy is, look in the mirror. Only we can hurt ourselves. And only we can fix it. Self-development and self-knowledge are the only keys to success.”

We are all born equal. Let us break through the walls of our foolish limitations and open the way to happiness.

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