Nina Bandoni's Secret to Happiness

Every woman wants to be happy, but only a few people really understand how to achieve this happiness. Some are sure that they will be happy when they get married, others believe that happiness is hidden in money, and still others believe that it is in the ideal figure, they say, “I would lose those hated 20 pounds and be the most beautiful ... and happy.”

For the notorious happiness average He is ready to make any tricks and sacrifices. And the longer she waits for happiness, the more she is able to: follow diets, work several jobs at once, fiddle with children and, of course, follow the “rules of a real woman”, which she read in her favorite magazine.

And today's edition. "Site" He will talk about how the artist, blogger and just a happy woman Nina Bandoni looks at such rules.





At the age of 57, Nina Bandoni is doing what she wanted to do in her early childhood: writing, painting and photography. Parents did not approve of the creative impulses of the girl, fearing that she would grow up a dreamer, unable to earn a living. Nina did not disappoint her parents - she studied at business school, built a successful career.





At the age of 39, she became a mother for the first time, causing bewilderment among long-bearing friends. And at 48 she decided to take the post of justice of the peace, where she worked for 6 years. Then I did yoga. She divorced her husband after 25 years together. She started a blog for women after 50, where she embodies her childhood dreams: she writes a lot, draws, and photographs.

Tough. fancywoman She has broken the rules, and she sees nothing wrong with that.

“The world we live in may be called the world of rules. And for girls, these rules are much more than for men. There are more rules for older women than for girls.”



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Nina Bandoni is sure that there are at least 4 popular women’s rules that have long been in the landfill. And that’s because grown-up, intelligent women can act on the basis of life experience, not fictional nonsense.

1. After 50, a woman has to cut her hair short.
   When I turned 30, my mother-in-law took me aside and explained that it was inappropriate for a married woman to walk with long hair. As a child, I hated a short haircut, but under the pressure of my mother-in-law, I still cut my hair. I didn't like it. I grew my hair and at 40 years old, I was already required to get a haircut from all sides, they say, the hair should be only up to the shoulders and not longer. But no, I thought long hair suited me. That is my choice.
   
   
   
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2. We need to paint over the gray
   “I remember my grandmother had thick brown hair. She decided to make them even better and went to a fashionable French hairdresser to help hide the gray hair. When my grandmother came back, we didn’t recognize her – she looked like a battered poodle with an incomprehensible washcloth on her head. She wore scarves all year while her hair grew back.
   
   But how many beautiful women in the world, who are gray only to the face. Why go to fashion hairdressers who will fit you to a popular template? It is not that they will succeed.”
   
   
   
   
   
   
3. Only natural makeup.
   “Our skin and hair change over the years, that is true. But why give up makeup when you can just experiment with other colors and shades? My friend Christie has a stack of snow-white hair and pale skin. For makeup, she uses only bright scarlet lipstick and arrows. It looks very spectacular. So why can't other women experiment with their own image? ?
   
   
   
   
   
   
4. Don't go back to old things
   “Fashion often reverses. Remember what pants, sweatshirts, skirts you liked years ago. Open an ancient chest of drawers, take out forgotten things, put them on and look in the mirror. Only you know if your clothes fit into your style or not. If you are in doubt, it is better to refuse. Remember that you are changing, which means that your wardrobe may also change. But even a single thing from an old dresser can completely transform, add to the trait that you so missed, says Nina Bandoni.
   
   
   
   
   
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This lady I am sure that every rule has exceptions. The woman claims that for every “irresistible” female commandment, she has at least one friend who shrugs her shoulders and breaks stereotypes in order to remain irresistible, confident and happy.

Earlier, we shared the revelations of psychologist Mikhail Labkovsky, who knows exactly where women’s problems come from. If there is a reason, a solution can be found.

What established ones? womanhood You think it's a thing of the past? Share your opinion in the comments.