Why you should not ask insensitive questions

Autism today is called a whole bunch of autism spectrum disorders. Despite years of research, the disease continues to be poorly understood: doctors do not know the causes of its occurrence, do not know how to diagnose in advance, do not have universal methods of treatment. Parents have to fight on their own.

And if even mom and dad are not always able to notice the peculiarity of their child, then what can we say about others who blame not quite adequate behavior of a little man on a bad character, especially upbringing or something else. And instead of support parent They only get a lot of angry comments.

We tried to find out what words are most often heard by parents of children with autism. It turned out a kind of list of statements that people only demonstrate their misconceptions about autism spectrum disorders. Let's try to clarify the situation a little.





Special people.

1. "Autism is terrible?"
   Autism is considered a type of disability, but it is caused by a special structure of the brain and an unusual way of perceiving information. Otherwise, these people are completely normal, so there is nothing terrible, they are able to live and enjoy life.
   
   
   
   
2. "Is it the vaccines?"
   Although scientists do not yet know much about autism, it is known that it is not about vaccinations, not about the peculiarities of the course of pregnancy and not that the child was not breastfed. Do not give your assumptions for the truth, especially before the parents of the child.
3. “He has superpowers? ?
   After watching The Good Doctor or the movie Rain Man, some viewers might think they knew everything about autism. However, comparing a real child with a fictional character is silly. In addition, the outstanding abilities of a person in a particular area with a general limited personality of a person with ASD are quite rare.
   
   
   
   
4. "Will it go away with age?"
   Noticing the strange behavior of the child, parents often share experiences with friends. But instead of trying to understand the problem, such worries are ignored, they say, everything will pass. Yes, there are cases when over time a person overcomes his characteristics and does not feel difficulties in communicating with people. This requires a lot of work, including from parents.
5. “How are you holding up? ?
   The pity behind which arrogance is felt, as if demonstrates that parents have little experience and they need other people’s advice and regrets.
   
   
   
   
6. “Shouldn’t such children be in a special school? ?
   A child with autism also needs education, entertainment, and friends. Any interaction with society is useful, and parents of special children have to make a lot of efforts to include their problem child in society. Only children with severe autism are unable to attend regular school.
7. “Why teach him, he can’t work anyway?” ?
   Yeah, parenting Often you have to face rudeness and answer stupid questions. As for working capacity, people with autism are often more scrupulous and responsible workers. For example, people with ASD are very successful in IT, where good concentration is important.
   
   
   
   
8. “He rides a bicycle. Are autistic people capable of that?
   Autistic children may read books, tinker with toys, or engage in active sports. Autism can be different, and there are no universal rules for what a child with ASD can and cannot do.
9. "Maybe he's missing a belt?"
   Accusations of poor upbringing have no basis, because ASD is a disability, and not a consequence of the softness or severity of parents. Such a child does not need additional punishment, but assistance.
   
   
   
   
10. "Why are you indulging him?"
    Every autistic child needs a particular mom and dad line of behavior, and it often seems wrong. Parents should know their child better than anyone else. Therefore, they should not be criticized, but only supported.
    
    
    
    

Most people don't know. What is autism? And what are its features? Therefore, learning about the disappointing diagnosis, parents face a complete misunderstanding from friends and relatives. And here it is important not to give up, but to remember that there are many people in the world with similar problems who are able to understand, share their experience, and support.

Using social networks to find thematic communities is not difficult. This is a great help that should not be ignored. You can not only get support, but also give it to others. Sometimes it's even more important.