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How to build a relationship with the love of the past
You wander slowly through the Internet in an absolutely calm and happy state, and suddenly - on you! I can see someone's cry of the soul. You read, you delve into, and it becomes clear that he is not for nothing. The topic is really quite sensitive, close to many. Whether you like it or not, people get used to each other over the years. relationship It can continue after the divorce.
Often this is what becomes a litmus test for people who come to the already overgrown battlefield that once raged between the two. And when it begins to grow a new life of completely different emotions, out of nowhere suddenly appears the old ghost of the ended relationship. He pours himself wine, says hello to his family and generally behaves as if nothing had happened.
In general, the relationship between a man and a woman, especially if they were previously bound by the knot of marriage, is always somewhat more complicated than others. It is quite difficult to take sides here, because there are so many people, so many opinions. Subjective opinions. Let’s take a look at one particular example that so excited our editorial staff. "Site". This is what a young woman writes.
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- The situation is that my husband has an ex-wife. Were married 3 years, kid. They divorced because she gave him horns. We have been together for 5 years, and the child is (he does not want to get married, says that this is a stage passed). But! His relatives call the ex to all wedding anniversary. She has no reason to visit his family. He won't take me with him because he knows she'll be there too. In fact, I find out that he and she were walking with one of his relatives. I explain that this is abnormal, crying, swearing, scandal - all useless. He says his relatives are doing it, and he has nothing to do with it. And he believes that there is nothing wrong with the fact that he communicates with her during a feast for a glass or two, he does not sleep with her. For me, it's wild, it doesn't fit in my head! I don't know what to do. On the one hand, you want a normal family, on the other hand, to drive him away from his relatives.
The tension of the young woman is felt in every word, it is absolutely clear that the situation seems alarming to her. Would she put her doubts on public display? Let's see what others think.
- I have a feeling that even though you have a child together, he doesn't take you seriously. His family called him because they knew he had a wife. That's weird. The way they mix. Maybe he still has feelings for her and they know it.
- It is called because it is a wife, even an ex. And you're a partner he doesn't even want to marry. Parents can have this kind of thing. The wife is also in Africa the wife, though ex, the mother of their grandson.
- In fact, it all depends on the mentality and relationships in each family. My husband and wife divorced when the child was 5 years old. It was 25 years ago. Then both created their own families, still communicate together, almost visiting each other. I am a child because I have grown up. It depends on the nature of people: someone does not pay attention to it at all, it was and has passed. And you, the more you focus on these moments, the worse you make yourself.
- Everyone I know, the new wife is taken by her husband's relatives for all anniversaries and so on, and the former - the last stage and visits the former mother-in-law at other times. More often than not, congratulations on the phone, and grandchildren are given to former father-in-law rarely. You are not perceived as trivial because you are not a wife. I don't know what kind of relationship you're having, but the post shows he doesn't think you're your wife.
- Author, think about it. He's fine with that. Arranges communication with his ex-wife, maybe he is pleased to communicate with her and sit with relatives with their common child, as a family. I don't understand why you're going to put up with this? It's not normal. You know yourself: you are drained and not accepted into the family at the behest of your man!
I would like to help anyone who is in this situation. We all deserve the best; we always want to know that Relationships have a future. In our opinion, the most important thing is not to enter into a dependent relationship, not to sacrifice your happiness and freedom. If you have an opinion on this, please share it in the comments. Perhaps it can give someone strength or dot all the i.
Often this is what becomes a litmus test for people who come to the already overgrown battlefield that once raged between the two. And when it begins to grow a new life of completely different emotions, out of nowhere suddenly appears the old ghost of the ended relationship. He pours himself wine, says hello to his family and generally behaves as if nothing had happened.
In general, the relationship between a man and a woman, especially if they were previously bound by the knot of marriage, is always somewhat more complicated than others. It is quite difficult to take sides here, because there are so many people, so many opinions. Subjective opinions. Let’s take a look at one particular example that so excited our editorial staff. "Site". This is what a young woman writes.
462969
- The situation is that my husband has an ex-wife. Were married 3 years, kid. They divorced because she gave him horns. We have been together for 5 years, and the child is (he does not want to get married, says that this is a stage passed). But! His relatives call the ex to all wedding anniversary. She has no reason to visit his family. He won't take me with him because he knows she'll be there too. In fact, I find out that he and she were walking with one of his relatives. I explain that this is abnormal, crying, swearing, scandal - all useless. He says his relatives are doing it, and he has nothing to do with it. And he believes that there is nothing wrong with the fact that he communicates with her during a feast for a glass or two, he does not sleep with her. For me, it's wild, it doesn't fit in my head! I don't know what to do. On the one hand, you want a normal family, on the other hand, to drive him away from his relatives.
The tension of the young woman is felt in every word, it is absolutely clear that the situation seems alarming to her. Would she put her doubts on public display? Let's see what others think.
- I have a feeling that even though you have a child together, he doesn't take you seriously. His family called him because they knew he had a wife. That's weird. The way they mix. Maybe he still has feelings for her and they know it.
- It is called because it is a wife, even an ex. And you're a partner he doesn't even want to marry. Parents can have this kind of thing. The wife is also in Africa the wife, though ex, the mother of their grandson.
- In fact, it all depends on the mentality and relationships in each family. My husband and wife divorced when the child was 5 years old. It was 25 years ago. Then both created their own families, still communicate together, almost visiting each other. I am a child because I have grown up. It depends on the nature of people: someone does not pay attention to it at all, it was and has passed. And you, the more you focus on these moments, the worse you make yourself.
- Everyone I know, the new wife is taken by her husband's relatives for all anniversaries and so on, and the former - the last stage and visits the former mother-in-law at other times. More often than not, congratulations on the phone, and grandchildren are given to former father-in-law rarely. You are not perceived as trivial because you are not a wife. I don't know what kind of relationship you're having, but the post shows he doesn't think you're your wife.
- Author, think about it. He's fine with that. Arranges communication with his ex-wife, maybe he is pleased to communicate with her and sit with relatives with their common child, as a family. I don't understand why you're going to put up with this? It's not normal. You know yourself: you are drained and not accepted into the family at the behest of your man!
I would like to help anyone who is in this situation. We all deserve the best; we always want to know that Relationships have a future. In our opinion, the most important thing is not to enter into a dependent relationship, not to sacrifice your happiness and freedom. If you have an opinion on this, please share it in the comments. Perhaps it can give someone strength or dot all the i.
