Fifteen times I called my daughter, but could not reach her, I was already thinking of going to her.

Telephone conversation with parents - That's a trap. At first you think you'll talk about this for no more than 5 minutes. And then the conversation drags on for almost an hour. And somehow I do not want to upset my mother, interrupting the communication, but also chatting is already impossible. What do we do?



The daughter of our current heroine Olga Stepanovna found a way out. True, very ambiguous and contradictory. A woman does not pick up the phone when her mother calls. Whether it is worth allowing yourself such a thing and whether it is possible to solve the brewing conflict in a human way, read further in the article.

Talking to Mom's parents will understand, I'm just desperate! So my 33-year-old daughter lives with her husband and little daughter in the capital. I recently retired and my husband and I moved to the countryside. So far, I devote all my free time to working in the beds and taking care of the garden. I try to communicate as much as possible with Nastya.

My daughter is often alone with the baby. The husband goes on business trips and disappears for days at work. I know what it's like to be alone with a baby in my arms. At one time, my husband, Nastenka's dad, also worked like a curse. So I want Nastya to know that I can always come and help her. I call my daughter several times a day to see if they're okay.



However, a very unpleasant situation has recently occurred. I called my daughter 15 times in a day and she never answered. Of course, I was worried because this had never happened before. I almost started packing up to drive to Nastya's house and see if everything is okay.

But then I suddenly got a message from Nastya: "We're all right!" Why do I have 15 missed calls from you? I'm sitting on needles here, and she's texting me in a messaging app! How can it be sustained?



I was already fighting with her when she turned off her home phone. You see, she doesn't need him, there's always some advertisers and charlatans calling, keeping the baby from sleeping. Okay, I specifically bought a smartphone so that it was easier to call and text. So now she's not picking up my phone either.

And I know very well that modern youth do not part with phones at all. People even go to the bathroom in a cell phone! Didn't Nastya see me call her so many times? I'll never believe it! It hurts me that my daughter doesn’t understand how important it is for me to just hear her voice.

Of course, after this message I immediately dialed Nastya. She didn't answer the phone again! I just got angry and almost threw my damn phone out the window. After 5 minutes, Nastya still called me back: “Mom, what’s going on?” I don't have time to talk on the phone. You know that I'm always working on Aniutka.



“I just wanted to know if you were doing well there! Don't you read the news? Anything can happen, even when you are at home. And with a small child in your arms, you need to generally keep your ear open. I'm not asking you much, just pick up if I'm calling you!

The daughter immediately replied that she was not interested in the news, saying that I need to watch less TV to sleep better. And then Nastya said that she does not have to answer the phone, because she has a lot of worries: “In general, did you never think that if a person does not answer the phone for so long, then he just does not want to talk to you?” If I need to, I'll call myself!



To be honest, I didn’t expect my daughter to say something like that. I had no idea that a phone conversation with her parents caused so many negative emotions. I just wanted the best... How do you communicate with Nastya after that? I feel like she doesn't need me at all.

In part, I understand Olga Stepanovna and her daughter Anastasia. Parents tend to worry about and without it, but this feeling is enhanced when the native blood is far away. It is important to find the middle ground here. No one likes annoying overprotection, so such a sharp reaction of Nastya - emotions that just came out.



Mother and daughter should talk about everything live and build boundaries. In the future, conflicts can be avoided. What do you think about that? What advice would you give Olga Stepanovna?