Why you should try again to establish a relationship with your husband

Family psychology is an extremely precise and difficult science. Therefore, today we enlisted the advice of a true professional in this field. Namely, the current family psychologist Peter Dmitrievsky.

Over time, sweet love vows are forgotten. In place of romantic surprises come unremarkable family routines. And the honeymoon is replaced by a languishing routine.



Some people can easily cope with domestic problems. They cherish their love through the years, never even thinking about divorce.

And others do not withstand constant stress and in despair throw overboard the sinking ship called "Marriage".

However, even the most patient and loving married couples today have to pass a real test of strength.

Quarantine is not easy for many. Who would have thought, but even if we are talking about the most beloved person in the world, round the clock being with him in the same room can turn into torture.



In this regard, the editorial board "Site" We offer to reveal together the secret of a strong marriage, which helps to save families for thousands of spouses even in the most difficult times.

As we said, during the quarantine, many became much more difficult to get along with their spouses than usual. For example, our readers are constantly sharing stories from their own lives in search of an answer to the question “How to avoid divorce when the situation seems hopeless?” ?



Some people say that they even have to resort to the services of specialists. However, therapy often has the opposite effect. Having understood their own feelings and desires, they suddenly find thatfeeling The other half simply disappeared.” But where could it suddenly disappear and is it worth looking for?

Here is what Peter Dmitrievsky thinks about this:

“Due to the circumstances, the routine routine of most families has changed dramatically. It is this sudden change that most often pushes a person to reassess his life.”

Personally, statements like “understood that I stopped loving” seem like something far-fetched. Because I firmly believe that love is not only a feeling, but also a choice. This means that a mature person can grow love, adds the psychologist.

Often speaking about the fact that the feeling of love has disappeared, a person implies something quite different. That is, he had some negative emotions towards his partner. Behind such a loud statement can hide banal disappointment, resentment, irritation.



And in such cases, the main problem is that the person confuses the lack of feelings with negativity, which clouds all the good that one spouse experiences in relation to the other.

However, Peter assures: “Even the most critical situation can be corrected. And the most important thing to do that is to have a firm determination to keep the family together.”

The way to save a marriage is through the realization of your own concept of love. It takes quite a lot of effort from partners seeking to preserve the relationship. You often have to step out of your comfort zone and change your habits.

Sometimes it is necessary to show courage and voice all the important nuances that I did not dare to say earlier. And you also need to be prepared for the fact that the second half will require some personal changes from you.



At the same time, it is important to clearly understand why you are trying to keep this relationship. Equally important is the effort you are willing to make.”

Many experts consider it advisable to take care of the strength of the relationship with your partner in advance.

And even those couples whose relationship has bypassed this kind of crisis, they recommend to conduct a kind of “divorce prevention”. Such prevention includes only two points. The first is personal development and the second is collaborative development.



By developing his personality, a person begins to understand himself better. This helps them grow spiritually and become more adaptable in their relationship with their partner.



The development of joint (reading and discussing popular literature, sports or joint creativity) allows you to maintain a keen interest in each other.



As a result, the couple will always feel like one team, able to cope with any life problems.