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The rules of conduct if the former husband is and offers to be together again
Sometimes adulthood forces us to make very difficult decisions. Often the difficulty is that the mind says one thing, but the heart wants another. Editorial "Site" He will share a story that will surely be painfully familiar to many. We will consider what is fraught with returning to the former and whether it is worth giving a second chance to relationships from the past.
My first marriage was based on emotions because I was young. I fell in love with him in high school: he is a high school student, and I am only 14 years old. At first he didn't notice me, he dated other girls, and I was jealous and sobbed into the pillow at night. But then he went into the army, and I was secretly waiting for him. It wasn't until I was 18 that he noticed me, dates started, and we got married. At that point, I was already. baby.
I gave birth, but our family life was not happy. At first they lived with their mother-in-law with a bad character. Then the apartment was rented, and the husband began to go to other women. I refused to believe in the betrayal of my husband. But everything turned out to be true, and cases of betrayal became something ordinary for me. Then the child was already three years old. At some point, I finally pulled myself together, divorced and went back to my parents. They kept saying to me, ‘We said, ‘You’re not going to have a life with this guy!’ I loved him for a long time, despite the divorce. I was a bit “released” when he left town. I applied for alimony, but he either didn't hand over anything, or he handed over mere pennies.
Soon my friends introduced me to Vladimir. Nice, kind, has a car and an apartment. We liked each other. I was struck by his attitude towards my child: the baby is 4 years old, and he communicates with him on an equal footing. And Volodya was very generous. He puts the little one on his shoulders and leads us to entertain us in a park or cafe. At the same time, the man immediately warned that if we get married, we will not have children due to health problems. I was happy because I didn’t plan on giving birth anymore.
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After We got married.He started calling his stepfather Dad. I was even, deep down, jealous because his dad was the one I loved the most. We lived well: my husband earned well, every summer we went to the sea. The son is still at the insistence of the new pope goes to sports sections, receives medals and generally studies well. Now he is 16 years old, but there were no problems even in adolescence thanks to the upbringing of his husband.
And it would be fine, but six months ago my ex-husband showed up. He wrote to me, told me that his mother-in-law was gone and he now lives in her apartment. We met him and talked about the past. It turned out that he was married for the second time, but only a year and a half. There are no children except our son. And then the feelings took over, and it started to spin! My ex asked me to divorce my current husband and go back with my son. I hesitated for a long time, but I realized that I can no longer live without love.
Of course, the conversation with Vladimir and his son was very difficult. My husband was sad, but he tried to understand me. But the son was stunned. Vladimir brought him up for 12 years, so it is not surprising that his son said firmly: “Go where you want, but I will not abandon my father.” I told him his real family was me and his father. In response, he said that he had only one fatherHe doesn't recognize the others.
His father asked him to be friends on social networks, but his son blocked him everywhere. I have the impression that Vladimir just took my son away! How else can I say that my son is ready to give me up in favor of his stepfather? I know it’s my own fault, but how do I live if I’m drawn to where true love is? There is no way back: Vladimir filed for divorce, and I live with my ex-husband. Son doesn't come to us. Sometimes I call him, and he answers short and dry. Like me. persuade To leave a stranger and return to his family?
Well, a very common and extremely difficult situation. Of course, any choice has certain consequences. In this case, the woman listened to her heart, took risks and chose love. But she did not take into account that the child may quite rightly not share her feelings for a person who was practically not involved in his upbringing.
Do you think the heroine of this story did the right thing? Should she try to convince her son? Boldly share your thoughts in the comments.
My first marriage was based on emotions because I was young. I fell in love with him in high school: he is a high school student, and I am only 14 years old. At first he didn't notice me, he dated other girls, and I was jealous and sobbed into the pillow at night. But then he went into the army, and I was secretly waiting for him. It wasn't until I was 18 that he noticed me, dates started, and we got married. At that point, I was already. baby.
I gave birth, but our family life was not happy. At first they lived with their mother-in-law with a bad character. Then the apartment was rented, and the husband began to go to other women. I refused to believe in the betrayal of my husband. But everything turned out to be true, and cases of betrayal became something ordinary for me. Then the child was already three years old. At some point, I finally pulled myself together, divorced and went back to my parents. They kept saying to me, ‘We said, ‘You’re not going to have a life with this guy!’ I loved him for a long time, despite the divorce. I was a bit “released” when he left town. I applied for alimony, but he either didn't hand over anything, or he handed over mere pennies.
Soon my friends introduced me to Vladimir. Nice, kind, has a car and an apartment. We liked each other. I was struck by his attitude towards my child: the baby is 4 years old, and he communicates with him on an equal footing. And Volodya was very generous. He puts the little one on his shoulders and leads us to entertain us in a park or cafe. At the same time, the man immediately warned that if we get married, we will not have children due to health problems. I was happy because I didn’t plan on giving birth anymore.
959594
After We got married.He started calling his stepfather Dad. I was even, deep down, jealous because his dad was the one I loved the most. We lived well: my husband earned well, every summer we went to the sea. The son is still at the insistence of the new pope goes to sports sections, receives medals and generally studies well. Now he is 16 years old, but there were no problems even in adolescence thanks to the upbringing of his husband.
And it would be fine, but six months ago my ex-husband showed up. He wrote to me, told me that his mother-in-law was gone and he now lives in her apartment. We met him and talked about the past. It turned out that he was married for the second time, but only a year and a half. There are no children except our son. And then the feelings took over, and it started to spin! My ex asked me to divorce my current husband and go back with my son. I hesitated for a long time, but I realized that I can no longer live without love.
Of course, the conversation with Vladimir and his son was very difficult. My husband was sad, but he tried to understand me. But the son was stunned. Vladimir brought him up for 12 years, so it is not surprising that his son said firmly: “Go where you want, but I will not abandon my father.” I told him his real family was me and his father. In response, he said that he had only one fatherHe doesn't recognize the others.
His father asked him to be friends on social networks, but his son blocked him everywhere. I have the impression that Vladimir just took my son away! How else can I say that my son is ready to give me up in favor of his stepfather? I know it’s my own fault, but how do I live if I’m drawn to where true love is? There is no way back: Vladimir filed for divorce, and I live with my ex-husband. Son doesn't come to us. Sometimes I call him, and he answers short and dry. Like me. persuade To leave a stranger and return to his family?
Well, a very common and extremely difficult situation. Of course, any choice has certain consequences. In this case, the woman listened to her heart, took risks and chose love. But she did not take into account that the child may quite rightly not share her feelings for a person who was practically not involved in his upbringing.
Do you think the heroine of this story did the right thing? Should she try to convince her son? Boldly share your thoughts in the comments.
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