How to reason with a voracious father-in-law who happens to empty the refrigerator without permission

As you know, joint household It can greatly affect the home comfort of seemingly native people. And we are not talking about a married couple in general, but about an uncomfortable neighborhood with the partner's parents. So, our story today is about a test that's overdone a bit with frequent visits.



In fact, the case is quite controversial. The narrator himself believes that he is completely right, but his wife does not agree with this. People should communicate more often and be completely open to each other. Who is the victim in this situation and who is simply testing someone else’s patience?

About six months ago, my wife and I decided to move to another city. Before that, we lived on the periphery and worked in one city-forming enterprise. At first everything was good, work - he tempers. There was no need to think about any unnecessary things, my wife always understood when I was too tired and quarrels were practically absent as a phenomenon.



But in one not-so-beautiful moment, everything went to pieces. Due to financial problems, total cuts began, and hard workers like me and my faithful were asked to leave. It was a serious financial blow, as we did not have time to put anything in the piggy bank. And how to postpone it, if small children are in their hands and almost all the money goes to them?



But the wife's father offered a helping hand. father-in-law. He lived in another city and rented a one-room apartment. No repair, on the outskirts, but his own. That's where we moved in. I was very grateful to this man, because he really saved us in a desperate situation.



The first month was a nightmare. Those crumbs that remained from our past lives, floated away with great speed. The children, the food and the community ate everything. I was looking for a job and my wife was watching the house. We also tried to make some repairs, but it was more out of desperation, just to stuff something heavy from sad thoughts head.



Then I found a job, I was given an advance of 2 months, entered the position - and I began to plow. It is clear that for the sake of family, you need to give your best and come home at night is normal. At least at first. Life leveled off a little, and I gave a small part of my salary to my father-in-law. Namely, for utilities and a little for renting housing.



And so, either out of boredom or for some other reason, my father-in-law began to come to visit us. And not just to help with the housework, no. He was sitting in the kitchen watching TV and eating. I don't mind receiving guests even when I'm not home. Only here the father-in-law really ate without any conscience.

My wife cooked breakfast, lunch, dinner, and all I had to do was eat what was left in the evening. My wife complained that she was tired of cooking in the kitchen. I understand, kids. But we had two of them, why do we need a third?



In short, I was getting bored. We talked to him without quarrels and fights, I explained everything. And he seemed to understand. He did not stop coming, but now he took something to eat. In the second week, he got tired of his idea and just bought a couple of apples for the children, and continued to eat at our place.

I tried to talk to my wife, but to no avail. She's basically saying the right thing: Dad saved us, we live at his house and so on. But really, what's next? I work for my family, I don't keep anything. The purchase of new clothes can only dream, so this anchor for the family treasury is very slowing us down. There's no one to support me.



I don't know what to do. On the one hand, his father-in-law is wrong, because it is his daughter and grandchildren, if only for them he would dare to go every day. On the other hand, we wouldn't have sailed without him. During this time, our former company went completely bankrupt. People run where they go. That's the case. What would you advise me? "Site"?