What not to complain about friends and acquaintances

Recently, I have increasingly noticed that dialogue With friends and acquaintances, they become negative. And this is not surprising, because 2020 does not cease to be full of sad news. The world is shuddering on all fronts: political, environmental and, of course, epidemiological. How not to get caught up in endless problems?



In addition, amid the oppressive world news, each of us faces a lot of life difficulties. It is human nature to share such things with others. Is it worth complaining to family and friends about their problems? We'll look at the subject further.

The desire of a person to share their problems with loved ones is explained in different ways. First of all, he may need empathy towards myself. Sometimes we just want to feel sorry for us. However, this is not always good for us.



Secondly, a person complains about something. So that he could actually be helped.. Of course, it all depends on the specific situation. But here, too, things are pretty ambiguous. It is not for nothing that residents of Western countries pour out their souls to specialists in this field. For our people, going to a therapist or psychologist still seems strange and unusual.



And yet there is some unspoken A list of things not to complain about. This is especially true of men. To be honest, this is another stereotype imposed by society. From the same opera as "men don't cry." I wonder what you think about that?

What not to complain about

1. People are used to complaining to others about their shortcomings. And it's like negativeIt's also about appearance. Women complain that again gained a couple of extra pounds. Men, for example, seem to point out their weaknesses. But talking about being lazy or cowardly, you're not likely to get better.
   
   
   
   
2. Money, or rather its absence, is another taboo subject for dialogue. Telling people close or unfamiliar new loan or other material difficultiesYou're obviously creating an awkward situation. And if a man talks about it, the interlocutor will hardly begin to respect him. Why would anyone even know how much you earn and how much debt you went into last month?
3. In addition, you should not complain about state of health. It’s better to finally do it, isn’t it? For example, a man who constantly talks about his sores looks weak. A woman is weak. Any problem must be solved comprehensively and purposefully. Unfortunately, complaints in this case will not help at all.
   
   
   
   
4. Another aspect that is often discussed in conversations is relationships. Men complain to their friends about their wives. And they will not miss the opportunity to tell their friends about how their husbands have once again been guilty. But taking the trash out of the house is a lost cause. All family and marriage problems You need to decide with your partner, and for this it is very important to immediately discuss any misunderstanding. Then the desire to complain to anyone will disappear.

The conversation, which is based on constant complaints, will oppress the interlocutors every time. Splashing your negativity on someone in return You will not feel positive emotions.. In addition, whining in its various manifestations does not create the best impression of a person. Yes, and agree, in the world there are already enough problems. Therefore, it is better to share with each other at least something positive and kind.



© Freepik I really wish that dialogue His family and friends were delighted and inspired. Of course, we all tend to give weakness and feel sorry for ourselves. However, in today’s world, you can not abuse this, because you can get bogged down in your problems without solving them.

How do you feel about complaining during a conversation? Very interesting to hear your point of view. We'll see you in the comments!