Gifts that it is better to return

Often, when dealing with other people: authoritative or meaningful to us, and are in a strong negative emotional state (anger, envy, resentment, etc.), we get from them "gifts" in the form of various judgments about us (personality, abilities, appearance) that we somehow believe and uncritically absorbed.

Well, if these "gifts" charge us with positive or believing in yourself. But it is usually not so.

Usually "gifts" complicate our life, or negatively affect health. We become a victim of someone else's "entracte": sick, can't arrange a personal life, choose the wrong profession or job, do not live as he wanted, and how should (parents, partners, children, home).





All you hear and humbly accept from others, to you is irrelevant. Just you (single or multiple) become "handy man" for dropping in you "garbage" that you don't want to wear. And since gifts are not hand made without a beautiful wrapper, the giver deftly wraps them in "reverent care of you", "desire to help", "protect...", "specify..." that you are happy to receive.

 

How to protect yourself when communicating?

• First, you need to remember that (according to the mechanism of projection) everything that man tells you, he talks about himself.
• Second, there is a possibility that some part of the truth in the words of the speaker is still there, so divide them by 2, and preferably 4 or 6.
• The third (and best), to back what you "gave".

 

For example, your friend says, "you're not feminine". Rather, it is concerned with this issue her whole life. Return something that belongs only to her.

If your ex said "you are the worst wife in the world", then give him this "worst case" and keep the "best".

If your mother believes that you are "not worthy..." (as you "it's too early/too late..."), it is likely that she voiced the reason for his failed marriage, lack of successful career or something else important to her.

 

How to return:

1. Recall a situation when you are insulted, offended or "gave" the belief, which you now carry. How do you feel now? How did it affect your life?

2. Relax, close your eyes and concentrate on internal sensations and images. In what part of the body you keep your "gift"? Imagine and feel it.
 
3. Reproduce the image of a man who "gave" you this "beauty". Looking at him, radiate confidence in what you do.
 
4. Mentally remove themselves from "the gift" and give this man. Tell him "I forgive you, but the gift is not accepted". Do it quietly, without thoughts of vengeance, accusations and explanations.
 
5. Watch how to change the image of a man. (Usually the person feels ashamed, or looks embarrassed.) What will he do with the return "gift"? Thank him for the valuable experience, let them know that you don't need this anymore, let go of his image.
 
6. Fill the space with positive energy. For this you need to understand what new image are you ready to take the vacant place? (usually there is a way-the antithesis of a "gift".) Imagine it and feel new sensations in the body. How to change your mood?
 
Using this technique you can "give away" all that accumulated, regardless of how long ago events.

And to your future life flow more harmoniously, then return "gifts," "generous hand" donors.

Take only the pleasant, good and useful gifts! published

 

Author: Natalia Nilova

P. S. And remember, only by changing their consumption — together we change the world! ©

Source: www.b17.ru/article/27334/