How to get rid of negative attitudes

Negative attitudes are a set of beliefs, principles that shape our worldview.

They are laid, as a rule, in childhood, and in the future have a huge impact on our lives. Most often, these attitudes are recorded in us by those people who had a great influence on us: parents, grandparents, friends, relatives, sometimes teachers.





Attitudes are a kind of filter through which we perceive reality. All these filters are different, to whom they have not been told.

How many installations I have already heard - you can publish a whole book most often, these installations are given to us by mothers.

“There are no normal men left, all are transferred”, “all men are goats, they all need only one thing”, “happiness on the road does not lie down, it must be earned”, “yes, who will take you such a marriage, you can not cook borscht”, just so nothing happens”, “you want much – you get little”, “money is evil”, “we are small people, we do not need much”, etc.

Here you can imagine, a woman wants to get married, wants a family, children, a good income, and seems to be moving in this direction, and in my head all the time these installations are jinking with a red light bulb: “Wait where you went, because all the men know who” or “you should not agree to this job – there is a salary, in any case, some trick, so just nothing falls from the sky.”

How will you be happy here? What if the filters are set up to look for unreliable men, poor people and failures?

The way you turn the world around you will show you.

Therefore, negative attitudes can and should be worked on. I'll tell you how I do it.

Choose a couple of hours of free time, take a few sheets of paper, a pen and start catching all the installations recorded in your subconscious.

First of all, write out what your parents (or people who replace them) said about your appearance as a child? (here is what friends said, as teased) – through these phrases our self-esteem, perception of ourselves, attitude to the body is formed.

Then write down what your parents said about you as a person? Behavior? From these phrases we build our attitude to our success, to our achievements. Have you been scolded, praised or compared? We will do the same with ourselves throughout our lives.





Family motto

These can be proverbs, sayings that demonstrate an attitude to life in general (such as “you did not live richly – there is nothing to start”, “how terrible it is to live”, “the world is so cruel”, etc.) – this is a whole flag with which you walk through life.

What did parents say about men? (forms our view of the male world and how we interact with it)

What did they say about sex? (This is your resource, energy potential plus attitude towards money, yes, sexual energy is the energy of financial flows.)

I will immediately say that there is a lot of work to be done, and the more installations you pull out of yourself, the more space you will free up for new ones.

For all these points, I recommend writing out installations for several days, not at once. Today you catch one thing, tomorrow something will be remembered, the day after tomorrow and more.

Next, you take the first paragraph (you can start with any), the pen boldly, with pressure, cross out the installation and write a positive option on another sheet.

For example, in the paragraph "what parents said about appearance" you say "some kind of daughter is clumsy, angular, bony and long like a sleeper, men do not like such." You cross this out and write on a new leaflet: I am slim, graceful and tall. I have very feminine, subtle curves of the body. Men cannot take their eyes off me and surround me with care.” And for the next few days, you're repeating that attitude to yourself and watching it take root in your world, studying how men are starting to react to you.

This can take weeks or even months (who likes to work slowly, like me).

It will be reasonable to start with the most painful installations, they, as a rule, lie on the surface, you do not need to dive deeply behind them.

After you rewrite and cross out all the installations from the first list, you will have a sheet (or many sheets) with positive attitudes that need to be introduced into your life.

There are many ways:

Read them as affirmations, 21 days minimum (and more), the best effect will be if you read immediately after waking up and before going to bed.

You can write each pleasant installation on a bright sticker and stick it in a prominent place.

You can record them on a recorder, superimpose them on beautiful music and listen to them in the car.

Option for advanced: rewrite new installations with the left hand. Why left? Because the left hand is responsible for the right hemisphere, which is where our negative beliefs live. When we rewrite the instructions with our left hand, we rewrite them in our subconscious.

Thus, new installations will gradually anchor in your life. Your body will use them to navigate your life.

The work on “replacing filters” is very painstaking, so I wish you perseverance and love for yourself, without it it will not work. published

Author: Seraphim Kosterina





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