The art of sleeping under one blanket

In the study of any phenomenon, a diagram is usually compiled to understand the interrelationship of various factors affecting the overall picture. We propose to look at the problems of interpersonal relations from the point of view of deformation of concepts.house."family order".

Previously, the family had a solid foundation – the material and economic necessity of its existence as a means of survival. The more family members there were, the higher the chances of improving their lives.A large family needed a large house.There were several generations of one family.







And all generations had interrelations and interdependencies with each other. All vital events took place in this House: people were born, died, married, celebrated religious (folk) holidays. Traditions, norms and rules of behavior were created, foundations that were perceived naturally and firmly fixed.

In modern life there is no such house.A person is born in a hospital, sick in a hospital, and dies there. The festive table is in the restaurant, for a friendly conversation - cozy cafes. A fairy tale for the night will be told by a pretty but stranger aunt on TV. With mental problems will help to understand the psychoanalyst.

They also learned the art of sleeping under the same blanket.Do not pull the blanket over yourself, do not kick, do not disturb the neighbor. This art extended to the rest of life – to behave in such a way as not to create problems for other people, to curb their desires, to measure their needs with the capabilities of loved ones. In order to survive, we must unite.

What about individuality? personal freedom?

There are instructiveThe parable of hedgehogs. In winter, to warm up, they gather in a burrow and try to get closer to each other. But the thorns hurt in the neighbors - you have to move away and look for such a distance that it was warm and not very painful.







But after all, both the feeling of warmth and the pain threshold have individual parameters. This is not an average distance. Everyone chooses an individual option on their own.

So in a large family: a person had the opportunity for individual development due to the fact that he constantly felt his usefulness, relevance; receiving a lot from others, he felt the need to give, give - thank.

The honor of the family, the honor of the family, the honor of the name – is this not the concept that underlies civic patriotism?

In the modern home, the economic basis is not essential, and connections are built on the basis of emotional attachment. And emotions, feelings are not constant.So we do this by pulling the blanket over ourselves:We work out relationships by blaming each other for our failures. Any difficulties generate mutual hostility, strife, quarrels. There were difficulties in the life of the old family, but they were met not with mutual reproaches, but with the consolidation of all forces, and they were fought as a natural disaster – inevitable, but surmountable.

The world changes – the psychological structure of the personality changes. Today, its most popular component is self-sufficiency. Therefore, the most important task of the modern family, parents is to create such conditions that the child, feeling love, affection and care, can still independently develop his personality. published



Author: Mila Alexandrova



P.S. And remember, just changing our consumption – together we change the world!

Source: inmedio.ru/articles/111990-iskusstvo-spat-pod-odnim-odeyalom