15 things you will not hear from the introverts Bashny.Net

    




Today introverts are not very popular in the world, which is at the peak of extroversion and openness in all spheres of life. But there are many things that you would do well to learn about the introverts to establish a relationship with them and look at them in new ways.



Introverts – they are different. Someone considers them closed, and some hermits. Many people simply do not pay attention to them, believing that introverts are deprived of something important. Actually, you just don't understand them. Here are a few facts that will help you to fix it.

We don't care about your birthday, the birthdays of colleagues – not something that we look forward to. In fact, we have no business with the personal celebration of a man we barely know. Of course, we will congratulate you along with other employees, but do not linger on "holiday" for a long time, using the first opportunity to go home.

And no need to throw a party to celebrate the same way we don't need a corporate holiday in our birthday. We don't love a lush party with dozens of strangers who, in fact, to us there is no case. Most of us generally don't organize loud parties and just enjoy a pleasant evening in a circle of those closest to you, carefully selected for such a personal event.

We have nothing before you spent the weekend If you don't treat a circle of close friends, we don't care what you did last weekend. We believe that everyone has the right to privacy, and it's only his decision how he spends it. If you decided to slug it out with ex or get drunk in another club, we won't judge you. If we work together, it does not mean that we know who you are. But why waste energy, delving into the lives of strangers?

We hate the crowd Large crowds quickly we tire. We tend to empathy (taking on the emotional state of another person) and therefore very quickly become overloaded with activity that prevails around us.

We don't like the corporate event we are forced to play the role of attentive listener and an interesting interlocutor, to establish relationships with people you don't know and which we do not care. So we have to diligently prepare for such events, making a huge effort. This is not a place where we can relax and enjoy the evening.

We have to pretend we like you We know who we truly love and who isn't (as well as all the other people). Moreover, we prefer honesty feigned friendliness, but sometimes you just have to pretend to be good to survive. But to be good is much harder than to be real.

We know what to do We are planning your schedule, filling in personal projects, meetings, work on new ideas. We appreciate the solitude, because at this time, we create things that can change not only our, but also your life.

We prefer to write the Majority of introverts prefer to communicate in writing and not orally. So much easier for us to Express our thoughts and concentrate on the subject, because no one interrupts. Distractions during oral negotiations are forcing us to expend more energy and much strain. It is much easier to write an e-mail is better for us and for you.

We feel safe with the right people When we are surrounded by "our" people, we are capable of anything. We achieve the best results in work, Hobbies, and stand up for those we love. Close fuel us with energy and help to move forward.

We have friends who really love us Introverts love people and people love us. But not everyone we know, our friends. If the introvert has a friend, that means he consciously chose it, and each knows it. We can meet and get to know new people, but it is very hard to become our friend.

We can do the job If extroverts need introverts as well as extroverts, can organize and host a public event, to speak or to play the role of "soul of the company" at the party. Many examples of this can be found in the book"Introverts. How to use the features of his character", so it's just our strength. We just need more time to recuperate and do it again.

We are not shy, rude or uptight Despite the fact that at first contact may give the impression. But if you get to know us better, you will see that we are able to make you laugh and keep an interesting conversation lasting more than 15 minutes. The only difference is that we share it with everyone.

We are well alone We love to be alone with our thoughts and, unlike fellow extroverts, we don't need others for stimulation. We have enough own energy to work and come up with something new. If needed, we do come for help and ask for advice. We love the solitude, and that's fine.

We hate small talk We love to talk, to touch on really meaningful topics to discuss new ideas and opportunities. But we hate small talks, which have no meaning. We believe that time wasted and rarely feel comfortable in small talk. Often, we just get bored.

We made the decision to be with you – appreciate it, We value our personal time and space, and therefore indulges in it not all. Often we attract extroverts because they feed on our energy, and are looking for like-minded people among introverts to communicate and create something new. We respect our time and each other's boundaries without affecting the personal space of others. If we are, then you're in luck.

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