About managing emotions without sublimaze

There is a common opinion that “pent-up” emotions you need to work out. Fashionable psychologists write that if not to Express their emotions, especially negative ones – anger, resentment, rage, aggressive impulses, and others – then they will sooner or later accumulate inside, will burst the dam and lead to nervous breakdowns and hysteria. This took the basic tenets of the “psychoanalysis for dummies”: subliminal, and it will be bad. How to sublimate – is another question. A lot of smart geeky people wrote about this scientific treatises.

Monstrous Freudian theory of psychoanalysis in General consider photographers to voyeurs, sublimating their perversion in a socially acceptable and approved form, surgeons, sadists, dancers and actors – for exhibitionists, and athletes of both sexes – persons who feel anxiety because of the practice of Masturbation. This is extreme. Sometimes a banana is just a banana.

Usually advised to direct aggression in sports (which, according to smart highbrow people, sports is usually not particularly fond of, is a cultural and ritualisierungen a form of aggression), in the creative, scientific and even (nightmare!) social activities, and so on. If there is emotion, expresses her socially acceptable way. If it's bad, cry, hurt Bay bag, again someone insulted – teach socially useful activity and it will pass.

But the solution to any problems with the transfer of aggression? Or psychologists, like most other doctors do not see the patient, and the disease? I know enough of intemperate people that can easily irritate any little thing. It helps them release aggression out? No, they do not become less irritable due to the fact that shouted and threw the momentary voltage. On the contrary, establishes something like a conditioned reflex: shout – it became easier – so, you need to scream every time.

There is a difference between suppressing emotions and managing them. Suppressed – so keep force of will, keep the incredible efforts of myself, cry, are pricked, but eating a cactus. To manage means to operate with his emotion, trying to find its source, and finding it – pass it through your own mind and realize.

The source of almost all negative emotions – resentment, and humiliated're insulted by that state anger and anger – is the feeling of self-worth (or importance). A man with a big, fat, CDA constantly feels someone is wronged, deprived or unappreciated. He is deprived of the ability to laugh at themselves (except when the laughter is the source of his pride), and hence, extremely vulnerable to others. When people do something wrong, and he feels hurt. When his actions someone doesn't like you – he feels misunderstood by society. When it is compared with someone not in his favor – he feels insulted.

The vulnerability of people with a wide CDA was incredible to offend them is like taking candy from a baby. It is for them invented countless ways of sublimation of aggression, they sympathetically look expensive psychotherapists who speak what he wants to hear the patient: you can't keep it, you're such an expressive man, such a complex personality – splash out, shout, output!

Why do you think so many people write about politics? Because it is a limitless field for the outpouring of his hatred. Then it will be easier. For a while, but easier. This is the psychology of the victim. Victim unconscious of the influence of a vague subconscious impulses.

Being aware of your emotions, flowing through their consciousness, we make ourselves objects of actors. And nothing beats the tangible power flowing into you from within when you consciously coped with negative emotion. Anywhere it is not sublimated, and just worked, made sense and threw out as superfluous. When he won the useless pride and behaved impeccably. This is the power of conscious humility of the stored energy. The power of intention.published

Author: Andrew Nordbon

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