The buzz on credit

Friendship is very good. But sometimes friendship is not a resource that helps to develop inner support and a source of quick, illusory buzz.

The midst of the buzz is different from the normal buzz that he earned. The human brain is designed so that readily gives rewards for all that contributes to human development (and type). For real achievements issues for objective results in the socially important sphere, where people have chosen for themselves.

But the cunning man tries to avoid work in any way creates illusions, which allow him to take the credit.

What happens to people and then taking loans from the banks, you about imagine. And that "friendship" is often similar to a Bank, it issues new loans at interest. The rising debt and need a loan more, and with it interest rates.

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Especially female friendship often these sins. Men also love to exchange strokes and often turn this into a goal of friendship, but women more often. The cuckoo praises the chicken, for what he praises the cuckoo.

It is such a chicken to a friend cuckoo and complains of failure: again, the extra pounds, mom had a quarrel, a lover NG gave one glass ball on the Christmas tree, and meet left in the company of friends, at work conflict. In General, your friend brings grief and sorrow to the pain threw up his hands. And the cuckoo starts to shaman, raise his hands, creating illusory worlds. In these illusory worlds, which sings the shaman, chicken, and overweight are all beautiful, sexiest, attractive, best, her mother is not right ("I am your mother"), lover don't deserve her and he knows it, and therefore behaves like a fool, from a sense of inferiority, that he was such a gorgeous woman got, but soon he will understand this and will burst into tears, but colleagues at work are jealous idiots.

Gradually the face of a chicken in a trance from cooing lovebirds-cuckoo (and alcohol and cake) there is a beautiful Palace in the middle of which is a throne and on the throne — she, chick, and on her head a crown. Stress as a hand removes, the heart becomes gentle and comfortable. It's like returning to heaven. To get away from the girlfriends don't want, but happily thinking that tomorrow you can come again, or to his call, or call. From this idea I want to live.

Cuckoo, on the one hand, feels great shaman raised his girlfriend literally from the ruins, put her on her feet, and on the other side knows that as soon as she becomes ill, will need the support of the chicken her her provide and all their imagination, all his power of suggestion might go, to prove to her that all is not what it looks like, not exactly so, as it is in reality, much better.

It's good when a person has a friend who will tell him in the lurch encouraging words will help to look at the situation with optimism. It is bad when the words are aimed at the constant substitution of reality with illusions.

The stronger the substitution effect, the greater the dependence on girlfriends, more "love" to her, that's addictive pull. Now just what is wrong, I want to run to her friend and "rewrite" what is happening with the draft.

A girlfriend for the sake of strengthening of friendship trying to replace reality as much as possible and achieve this great skill. For these friends hooked quickly and thoroughly as a drug. Imagine you went to her abandoned fat fool, and come out slender beauty and good, which itself rejected an unsuitable candidate because the choice is great. The pounds melted away, and near the entrance there appeared a queue of suitors ready to fight in the tournament.

I think that magic is impossible? For kitchen pokojninskega hypnosis, nothing is impossible. Reality can be rewritten completely.

"Listen to me, says girlfriend, looking another in the eye, firm and confident look (Mesmer and Erickson would have died of envy). — You're the best. Remember, you're a goddess. Don't you dare question, you betray the goddess in yourself. Let die the one you didn't get. You are very easy to lose and impossible to forget. But hard to find. Therefore, so far no one has found. Understand? But you will find! The glory of you is already underway, the process is irreversible.»

In a state torn to pieces people readily available to suggestion, especially when we want to believe in what he told. And now the poor girl begins to smile. "But I'm really nothing, right?"she says. "You do? — outraged her guru. — Tubulina!"

Tabolina — kitchen mantra. Both are trying to learn it and to experience each other. But, as a rule, one likes to be inspiring side, and the second — suggestible.

Girlfriends are generous when they have the fusion, identification, unity of souls. They genuinely love each other, they genuinely believe in what they say. They're closer than sisters, than mother and daughter, they are one. In such a way to create the illusion of a lot easier than most. Something from outside, credible and confident (the projection of the parental figure) tells you the words you were waiting for. It's easy to believe that this is the voice of God. An objective opinion of the world about you.

Sometimes between friends there is a crack. In this case, hatred can be incredibly large. So many souls spent so much energy invested, so much of the gift of love, taken from his selfishness, and suddenly this black ingratitude. The hatred between the former best friends is stronger than between the former lovers, because identification is often more.

Hatred is almost guaranteed if one of the bridesmaids suddenly smug to think it can seriously affect another. Not approving the words, not the positive hypnosis and give advice on how to change. It is here — the refusal to accept a friend as it is and consider it as the ideal goddess, are almost always leads to hate. And it is clear. Not for advice came to her, not for guidance, and for the unconditional love and approval. For a projection of an ideal loving parent figure. And she, zero and empty space, not her mouth open and broadcast.

Isn't it funny how ex-girlfriends complain that cost once to stop play along and praise and say something like "you put this on yourself", but not in the context of "you are guilty yourself, because you cannot be in the world so beautiful", and something about her weakness and laziness, a close friendship turns into a war. And fly to pieces zakoulochkam, and all his friends is a terrible gossip. Addicti such, keep in mind. And if you pushed on the needle unconditional approval and continuous praise girlfriend, this is for you potentially dangerous. Can end very badly.

Where do you think the line between normal, useful friendships and there's such loans of illusion that makes people get hooked on the needle of addiction and just that — to run after the illusions of his girlfriend?

Author: Marina Komissarova

 

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