Don't involve the child in marital conflict Bashny.Net

When the parents tell the child about their marital problems or a child is a constant witness to their quarrels, it causes the psyche of the child great harm. It's hard to see an unhappy mother, so sorry for becoming a dad. And so I want to make their lives better. Even the cost of your own health and happiness...

Try not to involve the child in discussing your marital relationship, do not overtighten the child on their side, don't do it the mediator between mom and dad. Don't expect the child to take sides or be someone to defend you in front of others.





Whatever the conflicts between the spouses did not happen, you need to remember that you are the parent, you should try to sort things out so that the child is not concerned.

The family is the marital subsystem and the parental subsystem. It is important that the boundaries of these two subsystems was durable. Everything about your marital life — disputes, conflicts, claims, explanation of the relationship is your own business, try to keep these conversations behind closed doors.

The child has the right to a good relationship with mom and dad, even if mom and dad quarrel, resent or angry at each other.

The child is part mom and part dad. Force, force, push the child to side with one parent is all the same what to force the child to accept one part and reject another.

 

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Children in this situation often go to physical or mental illness, a neurosis, but would not choose. If only to rally to his severe condition, his problems and his mom and dad.

Author: Catherine KES

 

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